Raising a powerful girl: Encourage your daughter to pursue a passion
by Sue Scheff on Jan 30, 2012
Moms and daughters: Building them up in a positive direction!
Having a daughter myself and being one of three sisters, I know how sometimes girls can be overlooked in families compared to boys. Years ago, I remember when it was thought that only the boys should go on to college and the girls position was to marry and raise the family such as cooking, cleaning etc. That is as old as the hills today, and even laughable to me. Today we know better – our girls AND boy are our future and ALL are treated equally with the same opportunities.
Our guest post today reflects on how you can encourage your daughter to become all she can be!
Raising a powerful girl: Encourage your daughter to pursue a passion
In this day and age, girls are becoming achievers in every field of life and there is no harm in helping our daughters to become more assertive and successful in life. Daughters need to be given the same importance and attention that is generally given to boys. When a daughter is brought up in a positive way and encouraged to pursue a goal in life, there is every chance that she will do so. The sense of responsibility and confidence will go a long way in bringing about changes within the community that she belongs. Encourage your daughter to become an asset to the society by giving her the right guidance and directions at an early stage.
Building up her emotional strength and confidence
Encourage your daughter to speak out for herself and to express emotions which will help in building the relationship levels with people later on. When she is able to express her feelings, this will enable her to have a better skill at communicating and keeping the rapport with people around her.
You can be the best role model for your daughter by giving her positive attitudes which no amount of education, books and television can provide. If you are a shy and retiring person, incapable of voicing out or being assertive for the right reasons, then she is bound to follow in that footstep. Inspire your daughter in the various activities of life and play with her brain development by pointing out things which you feel is important for her.
Fostering a sense of independence at an early stage in life is important for your daughter. If she shy away from certain activities and complain that she cannot do it, then you have not been giving her the right encouragement. Letting your daughter take charge of certain activities will not only engender a sense of responsibility but will also boost her confidence level.
Encourage her to pursue a passion
If you are someone who has a career or a hobby and is good at it, you daughter will sense this at an early stage in life. She may well develop an interest of her own which need not necessarily echo yours. You will just be providing the vital coaching experiences which she may not use immediately but will always be there within her.
Encourage her to involve herself in extracurricular activities which may range from playing basketball, painting, singing or dancing. Do not ever let her feel that what she has chosen as interest falls short of your expectations about her. Rather, show an interest in her new found goal or passion and encourage her to be wise, in deciding what she really wants in the long run. This is truly going to help her grow from strength to strength in her developmental process.
When you ask your daughter questions like, why she loves a particular activity or what she plans to do in later life, you are already encouraging her to think and make decisions. Just because she is a little girl does not mean she cannot think. Well, her answers may be childish but these are what she feels at that point of time and it is for you, to understand and explain things to her in a simple manner.
There are many other factors which play a role in the development and empowerment of a daughter but you are the most basic foundation. If the foundation is not stable, your daughter will not be able to stand firm in her growth towards life and career. Raise a powerful girl and watch her make you proud one day.
About the author: Alia Haley is a blogger by profession. She loves writing on technology and autos. Beside this she is fond of cars and watches. Recently an article on Smart car attracted her attention. These days she is busy in writing an article on Tag Heuer Watches.
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A Teen Girl’s Survival Guide
by Sue Scheff on Jan 25, 2012
It's not always easy having a good mom and daughter relationship.
Being a mother of a daughter I know firsthand that raising a teenage girl can be a challenge. Though my daughter’s teen years are a decade behind me, I listen to parents today and I sympathize with the extra burdens they have to endure with the added pressures of technology. It is not easy. The one common denominator that doesn’t change is most girls always feel they are never pretty enough, thin enough or fit in. This needs to stop. Where does all this low self-worth stem from? As a parent, many of use always try to build out kids up – however peer pressure can be so strong.
Here is a fantastic guest post that I think parents will benefit from:
Just Mom and Me: A Teen Girl’s Survival Guide
Mom and daughter relationships are very complicated and multifaceted. Some of them are the best of pals and communicate with each other regularly. Some are forever in the combatant phase. There are some who even steer clear of any kind of clash. But it can be stated without an iota of doubt that there is a whiff of all these traits in almost all relationships.
The million dollar question here is for the mommies, “how to raise your darling daughters into influential girls who are self-confident?” they become adept at making constructive choices regarding their own lives and execute productive actions for others. In spite of being normal girls with their little insecurities, they have a strong will and feel all right about themselves. You should know that these girls will mature sensibly and lead a worthwhile and satiated life.
Acknowledge your family’s most valued ideals
It is very essential to mull over your family ethics and contemplate upon the means by which you will put across these values. Be sure to include suitable examples to corroborate your message in the most appropriate manner. For this you have to constantly keep a check on instances in your daily life to exemplify these ideals you want your daughter to imbibe.
Persuade your daughter to resolve her own issues before settling it yourself
You have to coach your daughter to make her own decisions. She has to be independent and develop her own aptitude to deal with situations. Tell her to deliberate upon more than two approaches to deal with the circumstances and then inquire about likely consequences. You should convince her to make her own decisions for the very dilemma. It is okay even if you do not see things the same way; at least now your daughter has a feeling of control over her life.
Do not let her accomplish by magnitude, creates trouble
Try to make your daughter toil and excel at one thing at a time. Do not become hasty in trying to make them into little mechanical multi-taskers. Yes, this is an extremely competitive world and the motto of survival of the fittest is “the thing” to follow. But give your daughter some space and let her follow her own interests. You are there to guide her of course. Do not register her in infinite activities like dramatics, soccer, art, music etc. the belief that self worth is acquired by who you are and not what you achieve.
Make your daughter work together with other girls
If your daughter works jointly with other a girl of her school and solves her predicaments together, she will excel later in taking big risks and tackle many trials and tribulations in life. Working together makes them have an unbelievable sense of achievement and feeling of proficiency. All this is good for your daughter and good for you in the long run. So the bottom-line is inspire your daughter to take part in team-building activities where everyone works cooperatively to provide solutions to their problems.
Let your daughter be aware of the fact that you love her because of who she is
Do not be over fixated about everything your daughter does. She needs her own space just like you do as a mother. Keep encouraging her to have good habits but never obsess about it too much. It is alright if she takes her own time, everything does not happen overnight. But, show a positive reception for her individuality. Do not keep cribbing about her weight or her looks as she first needs to recognize her inner self. You need to deflate the thought that beauty is just about your appearance. Over obsession about the physical appearance will definitely lead to a lot of insecurities in your daughter’s life.
So, remember this rearing a girl up can be very thrilling and stimulating. Both of you can work it out together and enjoy so many things together. Maintain this bond even when she grows older. She will appreciate it for sure and you will always cherish it forever.
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Sue Scheff: Teen Self Esteem Month of May
by Sue Scheff on May 09, 2010
May is Teen Self Esteem Month and The Association of Junior Leagues Inc. (AJLI) is working with their local communities to help promote teen self-esteem.
The Junior League of Greater Fort Lauderdale, Inc. is an organization of women committed to promoting voluntarism, developing the potential of women, and to improving the community through effective action and leadership of trained volunteers.
AJLI has is dedicated to help create an awareness about bullying and the long lasting damage it does to teens. With the suicide of Phoebe Prince combined with the savage beating of Josie Ratley and the horrific incident that set Michael Brewer on fire, it is time that schools, parents, communities and teachers ban together to help put an end to bullying.
Because bullying so often starts between the critical ages of 9 to 12, when girls are entering adolescence, the Junior League of Boise’s Especially Me program targets pre-teen girls through a serious of three classes. The first class on self image and self esteem teaches girls about the role society and the media have on presentations of women’s images. The second class focuses on helping girls understand the changes their bodies are and will undergo with puberty and the importance of good health. In the final class, girls learn how to make good decisions and stick to them, particularly when confronted by peer pressure.
Locate your local Junior League today and start making a difference in your community!
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