Labor Day Weekend Blast: Don’t Drive Drunk or Buzzed! Buzzed Driving is Drunk Driving

by Sue Scheff on Sep 02, 2010


As another long weekend approaches and many have off from work, plans for parties and end of summer picnics are planned.

Did you know that in 2008, just over the Labor Day holiday weekend, 194 people were killed in crashes involving an impaired driver?

This Labor Day Weekend, the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration and the Ad Council are trying to remind people to plan ahead and designate a sober driver for any Labor Day celebration because “Buzzed Driving is Drunk Driving.”

Buzzed driving is drunk driving. Getting behind the wheel after even just one too many drinks can lead to disaster. It is critical to be prepared. One of the best ways to be prepared is to know your options for alternative transportation.

Check out the list of sober/safe ride programs across the country. Find one in your area, and save the number in your cell phone so you always have it on you.

Be an educated parent, you will have safer teens!  Remember, underage drinking is illegal!

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Back to School Homework Frustrations

by Sue Scheff on Aug 27, 2010


Many schools are back in session.  Teens that have been swimming, surfing, enjoying the beach, traveling or simply sleeping in over the summer are now faced with studies, homework and deadlines.

Students are trying to get back into the routine of early rising and homework blues, however it doesn’t have to be the blues, you can turn it around.

What can you do as a parent to help them overcome this hump?

8 Ways Parents Can Help With Homework:

1. Offer encouragement. Give your child praise for efforts and for completing assignments.

2. Be available. Encourage your child to do the work independently, but be available for assistance.

3. Maintain a schedule. Establish a set time to do homework each day. You may want to use a calendar to keep track of assignments and due dates.

4. Designate space. Provide a space for homework, stocked with necessary supplies, such as pencils, pens, paper, dictionaries, a computer, and other reference materials.

5. Provide discipline. Help your child focus on homework by removing distractions, such as television, radio, telephone, and interruptions from siblings and friends.

6. Be a role model. Consider doing some of your work, such as paying bills or writing letters, during your child’s homework time.

7. Be supportive. Talk to your child about difficulties with homework. Be willing to talk to your child’s teacher to resolve problems in a positive manner.

8. Involvement. Familiarize yourself with the teacher’s homework policy. Make sure that you and your child understand the teacher’s expectations. At the beginning of the year, you may want to ask your child’s teacher these questions – What kinds of assignments will you give? How often do you give homework? How much time are the students expected to spend on them? What type of involvement do you expect from parents?

Sources: Chicago Public Schools, Connect with Kids

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Parenting Teen Girls and Tweens – Pink Locker Society

by Sue Scheff on Aug 26, 2010


The PINK Locker Society is launched and tweens are talking about it!  Many are  thrilled to have a website that answers many questions and feelings that are difficult or sensitive to talk about.

From creating your Dream Locker with an interactive pop-up, to answering questions about your boy crushes or what to wear, The PINK Locker Society is fun, educational and offers a vast amount of information to help girls go from tween-hood into teen-hood.

Some of the most popular questions that are asked and answers are questions about getting their periods, boy crushes, and breast issues. As a parent, may have talked to their tweens about these sensitive subjects, however having a group of peer to talk to can really help understand they are not alone.  Let’s face it, this is a trying time for them and being able to see others (their peers) are struggling too helps them see their questions are not stupid.

Let’s get cooking! The PINK Locker Society also offers recipes for your girls to create and make.  Helping your daughter build her self-esteem is a major part of growing up and making good choices.

If you have a tween, get ready for the launching of The PINK Locker Society book that will be released September 14th.  Click here to pre-order today!

Be an educated parent, you will have healthier teens!

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Back to school, back to homework and back to exams! Teen Cheating High-Tech

by Sue Scheff on Aug 25, 2010


Back to school, back to homework and back to exams!  With all the techy gadgets out there – are they in the classroom?  In most cases, yes they are.  Does this increase the percentage of students that are using technology to cheat?  Here is a great timely article from Connect with Kids with good parenting tips!

Source: Connect with Kids

High Tech Cheating

“It is kind of obvious, but teachers don’t really notice. They just think you are listening to music.”

– Danny, 16 years old

We see it walking down the street, in the mall, at the dinner table – we know kids today seem to be constantly texting. A new survey of young people from Textplus shows teens are sending text messages during the school day, as well. And what they’re sending might be considered by some as high-tech cheating.

According to survey results, 43 percent of teens 13 to 17 say they text during class… and nearly 80 percent of say they’ve never gotten in trouble with their teachers. But perhaps just as troubling – some kids are using their cell phones and iPods to cheat.

“[Students] will be looking at the test, and they will just have their iPod on their desk, and they will be scrolling down the information on it,” says 16-year-old Danny.

Because the latest iPods display word documents, some students will download cheat sheets.

“I know somebody who does it all the time, and he hasn’t gotten caught yet,” says Carlton, 18.

Other kids will speak the answers into their iPods while studying, then play them back during a test.

“It is kind of obvious, but teachers don’t really notice. They just think you are listening to music,” says Danny.

“Except for maybe the young teachers, I don’t think the older teachers know much about iPods or any new technology,” adds Joie, 16.

While many texts may be about weekend plans or the latest gossip, according to teens surveyed by Textplus, 22 percent say they have texted answers to classmates… and 20 percent said they themselves had been “saved” by such a text.

Still, some kids say that cheating with an iPod is uncommon, partly because it takes too much work.

Nick, 18, says it’s just too much trouble. “If you are going to be wasting your time finding out how to get answers on an iPod, you might as well just study.”

Blake, 16, says there are easier ways to cheat. “I’d rather just go in and copy off of someone else.”

Experts say parents should make sure their kids understand that cheating has consequences.

For example, says 18-year-old Marquis, “I heard of some kid who was taking the SATs and his sister recently passed it. She texted him the answers or something, and he got expelled.”

Amber, 16, says the biggest deterrent is her own conscience. “It makes you feel guilty. It makes me feel guilty when I cheat.”

What Parents Need To Know

A recent edition of the “Report Card on the Ethics of American Youth,” a comprehensive national survey on the ethics of young people administered by The Josephson Institute of Ethics showed the following concerning high school students:

  • Nearly two-thirds (71 percent) admit they cheated on an exam at least once in the past 12 months (45 percent said they did so two or more times)
  • Almost all (92 percent) lied to their parents in the past 12 months (79 percent said they did so two or more times)
  • Over two-thirds (78 percent) lied to a teacher (58 percent two or more times)
  • Over one-quarter (27 percent) said they would lie to get a job
  • Forty percent of males and 30 percent of females say they stole something from a store in the past 12 months

These statistics seem to be indicative of a drift away from the morals and values that parents traditionally associate with society in the United States. In the press release accompanying the preliminary result of the survey, Michael Josephson, founder and president of the Josephson Institute of Ethics and CHARACTER COUNTS!, called on politicians to recognize the vital importance of dealing with “shocking levels of moral illiteracy” as part of any educational reform package. Saying the survey data reveals “a hole in the moral ozone,” Josephson added: “Being sure children can read is certainly essential, but it is no less important that we deal with the alarming rate of cheating, lying and violence that threatens the very fabric of our society.”

When discussing issues of morality and values, how can a parent illustrate what it means to be a person of character? The Center for the 4th and 5th R’s provides the following examples of characteristics of an individual with a positive character. For example, a person of character …

Is trustworthy:

  • Honesty – Tell the truth. Be sincere. Don’t deceive, mislead or be devious or tricky. Don’t betray a trust. Don’t withhold important information in relationships of trust. Don’t steal. Don’t cheat.
  • Integrity – Stand up for your beliefs about right and wrong. Be your best self. Resist social pressures to do things you think are wrong. Walk your talk. Show commitment, courage and self-discipline.
  • Promise-keeping – Keep your word. Honor your commitments. Pay your debts. Return what you borrow.
  • Loyalty – Stand by, support, and protect your family, friends, employers, community and country. Don’t talk behind people’s backs, spread rumors, or engage in harmful gossip. Don’t violate other ethical principles to keep or win a friendship or gain approval. Don’t ask a friend to do something wrong.

Treats all people with respect:

  • Respect – Be courteous and polite. Judge all people on their merits. Be tolerant, appreciative and accepting of individual differences. Don’t abuse, demean or mistreat anyone. Don’t use, manipulate, exploit or take advantage of others. Respect the right of individuals to make decisions about their own lives.

Acts responsibly:

  • Accountability – Think before you act. Consider the possible consequences on all people affected by actions. Think for the long-term. Be reliable. Be accountable. Accept responsibility for the consequences of your choices. Don’t make excuses. Don’t blame others for your mistakes or take credit for others’ achievements. Set a good example for those who look up to you.
  • Pursue excellence – Do your best with what you have. Keep trying. Don’t quit or give up easily. Be diligent and industrious.
  • Self-control – Exercise self-control. Be disciplined.

Is fair and just:

  • Fairness – Treat all people fairly. Be open-minded. Listen to others and try to understand what they are saying and feeling. Make decisions which affect others only on appropriate considerations. Don’t take unfair advantage of others’ mistakes. Don’t take more than your fair share.

Is caring:

  • Caring and kindness – Show you care about others through kindness, caring, sharing and compassion. Live by the Golden Rule. Help others. Don’t be selfish. Don’t be mean, cruel or insensitive to other’s feelings. Be charitable.

Is a good citizen:

  • Citizenship – Play by the rules. Obey laws. Do your share. Respect authority. Stay informed. Vote. Protect your neighbors and community. Pay your taxes. Be charitable and altruistic. Help your community or school by volunteering service. Protect the environment. Conserve natural resources.

According to experts at CHARACTER COUNTS!, character building is most effective when you regularly see and seize opportunities to …

  • Strengthen awareness of moral obligations and the moral significance of choices (ethical consciousness).
  • Enhance the desire to do the right thing (ethical commitment).
  • Improve the ability to foresee potential consequences, devise options and implement principled choices (ethical competency).

When trying to instill morals and values to your child, experts at CHARACTER COUNTS! say it is important to …

  • Be consistent – The moral messages you send must be clear, consistent and repetitive. Children will judge your values not by what you say but by what you do and what you permit them to do. They will judge you not by your best moments but by your last worst act. Thus, everything you say and do, and all that you allow to be said and done in your presence, either reinforces or undermines the credibility of your messages about the importance of good character. Over and over, use the specific language of the core virtues – trustworthiness, respect, responsibility, fairness, caring and citizenship – and be as firm and consistent as you can be about teaching, advocating, modeling and enforcing these “Six Pillars of Character.” When you are tired, rushed or under pressure you are most tempted to rationalize. It may help to remember that the most powerful and lasting lessons about character are taught by making tough choices when the cost of doing the right thing is high.
  • Be concrete – Messages about good attitudes, character traits and conduct should be explicit, direct and specific. Building character and teaching ethics is not an academic undertaking; it must be relevant to the lives and experiences of your children. Talk about character and choices in situations that your children have been in. Comment on and discuss things their friends and teachers have done in terms of the “Six Pillars of Character.”
  • Be creative – Effective character development should be creative. It should be active and involve the child in real decision-making that has real consequences (such as teaching responsibility through allocating money from an allowance or taking care of a pet). Games and role-playing are also effective. Look for “teaching moments,” using good and bad examples from television, movies and the news.

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Teens Hanging with Less Than Desireable Peers – Teen Gangs

by Sue Scheff on Aug 23, 2010


Teen Gang and Gang Violence has taken on a new light in today’s age.

Gangs prey on the weak child that yearns to fit in with a false illusion they are accepted into the “cool crowd”. With most Gangs as with Teen Cults, they can convince your child that joining “their Gang or Cult” will make them a “well-liked and popular” teen as well as one that others may fear.  This gives the teen a false sense of superiority.  Remember, many of today’s teens that are acting out negatively are suffering with extremely low self confidence.  This feeling of power that they believe a gang or cult has can boost their esteem; however they are blinded to the fact that is dangerous.  This is how desperate some teens are to fit in.

In reality, it is a downward spiral that can result in damage both emotionally and psychically. We have found Teen Gangs and Teen Cults are sometimes hard to detect.  They disguise themselves to impress the most intelligent of parents. We have witnessed Gang members who will present themselves as the “good kid from the good family” and you would not suspect their true colors.

If you suspect your child is involved in any Gang Activities or any Cults, please seek local therapy and encourage your child to communicate. This is when the lines of communication need to be wide open. Sometimes this is so hard, and that is when an objective person is always beneficial.  Teen Gangs and Teen Cults are to be taken very seriously.  A child that is involved in a gang can affect the entire family and their safety.  Take this very seriously if you suspect your child is participating in gang activity or cult association.

If you feel your teen is in need of further Boarding School, Military School, Residential or Program Options, please complete our Information Request Form.

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Teen Drinking – Teen Drug Use – Parent Help

by Sue Scheff on Aug 22, 2010


Teen Drug Use and Teen Drinking also known as Substance Abuse amongst teens and even children.

With today’s society, kids have access to many different substances that can be addictive and damaging. If you suspect your child is using drugs or drinking alcohol, please seek help for them as soon as possible. Drug testing is helpful, but not always accurate.  Teen Drug use and Teen Drinking may escalate to addiction.

Parent’s Universal Resource Experts get calls constantly, that a child is only smoking pot. Unfortunately in most cases, marijuana can lead to more severe drugs, and marijuana is considered an illegal drug. Smoking marijuana is damaging to the child’s body, brain and behavior. Even though marijuana is not considered a narcotic, most teens are very hooked on it. Many teens that are on prescribed medications such as Ritalin, Adderall, Strattera, Concerta, Zoloft, Prozac etc. are more at risk when mixing these medications with street drugs. It is critical you speak with your child about this and learn all the side effects.  Educating your child on the potential harm may help them to understand the dangers involved in mixing prescription drugs with street drugs. Awareness is the first step to understanding.

Alcohol is not any different with today’s teens. Like adults, some teens use the substances to escape their problems; however they don’t realize that it is not an escape but rather a deep dark hole. Some teens use substances to “fit in” with the rest of their peers – teen peer pressure. This is when a child really needs to know that they don’t need to “fit in” if it means hurting themselves. Using drug and alcohol is harming them. Especially if a teen is taking prescribed medication (refer to the above paragraph) teen drinking can be harmful. The combination can bring out the worse in a person. Communicating with your teen, as difficult as it can be, is one of the best tools we have.  Even if you think they are not listening, we hope eventually they will hear you.

If your teen is experimenting with this, please step in and get proper help through local resources. If it has extended into an addiction, it is probably time for a Residential Placement. If you feel your child is only experimenting, it is wise to start precautions early. An informed parent is an educated parent.  This can be your life jacket when and if you need the proper intervention.  Always be prepared, it can save you from rash decisions later.

A teen that is just starting to experiment with substance use or starting to become difficult; a solid short term self growth program may be very beneficial for them.  However keep in mind, if this behavior has been escalating over a length of time, the short term program may only serve as a temporary band-aid.

Drugs and Alcoholic usage is definitely a sign that your child needs help. Teen Drug Addiction and Teen Drinking is a serious problem in today’s society; if you suspect your child is using substances, especially if they are on prescribed medications, start seeking local help.  If the local resources become exhausted, and you are still experiencing difficulties, it may be time for the next step; Therapeutic Boarding School or Residential Treatment Center.

If you feel your teen is in need of further Boarding School, Residential Therapy or Program Options, please complete our Information Request Form.

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Update Your Emergency Numbers and Hotlines Today: You Could Save a Life

by Sue Scheff on Aug 19, 2010


Raising children today or taking care of elderly parents, keeping emergency numbers and hotlines available at all time is imperative.  Whether your teen or child comes home from school by themselves, or you live on your own, keeping these numbers up-to-date is critical to saving lives.  Every minute counts if a child swallows a poisonous household product, every second counts if your child is a runaway or been abducted.

Here is a great list to start with and take the time to add more that may refer to you personally such as your emergency contacts:

Above is a start and be sure to add your local sheriff’s office as well as your emergency contacts.

School opens next week in Broward, Dade and Palm Beach County, put this on your list to do in order to prepare for a safe and healthy school year.

Be an educated parent, you will have healthier and safer teens.

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VolunteerSpot Makes Back-to-School Hassel Free

by Sue Scheff on Aug 17, 2010


It is that time of year again, and schools throughout the country will be opening as parents are scrambling.  Have you considered starting a VolunteerSpot in your community?  Learn more today!  Here is the latest press release from VolunteerSpot.  Read more about STARS filling and passing out 14,000 backpacks in Florida, with the help of VolunteerSpot – click here.

As massive budget cuts hit schools across country, free online tool makes it easy for parents to help our nation’s teachers

Back-to-school is right around the corner, and due to recent state-wide budget cuts, teachers and schools need parents’ help this year more than ever before. Parents will be asked to step-up and help in the classroom, the campus, and to support fundraisers. VolunteerSpot (www.VolunteerSpot.com), a free online coordination tool, simplifies the volunteer experience and makes it easier for more parents to get involved. Most importantly, VolunteerSpot is a proven success; the online sign up tool increases parent participation by 20% and raises school donation rates, too.

Any teacher or parent-leader can invite volunteers to sign up electronically through VolunteerSpot.com, and in two simple-clicks, parents can sign up for whatever activity and time works for them — from reading to the class or brining snacks to the Fall party, to helping in library or cafeteria, to staffing important fundraisers like the school carnival or stadium concession stand. VolunteerSpot even sends automated messages reminding volunteers of their commitments. No more “reply all” emails, late night phone tag, or disorganized paper sign-up sheets.
“Back-to-school is an exciting but stressful time for teachers and parent-leaders as they set up their classrooms and prepare for the year’s fundraising activities,” said Karen Bantuveris, Founder & CEO, VolunteerSpot. “It’s our responsibility as parents to help out in any way we can, and VolunteerSpot helps by making it easier for more parents to get involved at school.”
VolunteerSpot made it so easy to sign up parents to read to my kindergarten class,” says Erin W., of Austin, TX. “I set up the schedule in a few minutes, and VolunteerSpot did the rest. Within 48 hours, all the spots were full and the best part is the kids love seeing their parents in the classroom.”
VolunteerSpot brings the simplicity of an online party invitation to school volunteering and makes it easy for anyone to ask for help. The site also provides unique tools, from free e-books, including the new “Room Parent Survival Guide,” and smart tips on everything from how to throw a successful school carnival or bake sale to Teacher Appreciation Week.
VolunteerSpot recently helped the Carmel Unified School District in California win a $100,000 donation when they were faced with the request to mobilize volunteers for the US Open.  Asked to assemble a team to work approximately 14,000 hours over the course of seven days, the school district enlisted VolunteerSpot’s easy-to-use sign-up sheets, automatic e-mail reminders and organizational tools to ensure that the event went off without a hitch.

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About VolunteerSpotBased in Austin, Texas, privately held VolunteerSpot (www.VolunteerSpot.com) is a free Web-based organization tool that powers grassroots volunteering at school and in the community. Founded by ‘mompreneur’ and PTA leader, Karen Bantuveris, VolunteerSpot’s easy online sign-up tool saves time, streamlines communication and makes it simple for more people to get involved. VolunteerSpot has help organize more than a quarter-million volunteers since its public launch in April, 2009. VolunteerSpot is perfect for coordinating groups for anything – PTA activities, classroom helpers, carnivals and festivals, tournaments, VBS, service projects, mentoring sessions, group campouts, ministry meals, book fairs, swim meets, and more…. VolunteerSpot, DOING GOOD Just Got Easier!!!

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Sue Scheff: Girl World Tour Fall 2010 – Mark Your Dates!

by Sue Scheff on Aug 15, 2010


World renown Author and Parenting Tween and Teen Expert, Rosalind Wiseman is taking her Girl World Tour back on the road again this fall.

With many stops on her schedule, Miami is one of them and they couldn’t be more excited!

Date: December 7, 2010
Host: Books & Books
Location: Temple Judea, 5500 Granada Boulevard, Coral Gables
Time: 7-9pm
Tickets: TBA

This is an invitation to save the date!

About this exciting event sponsored by Dove go fresh deodorant:

Moms & daughters (ages 8-14) are invited to join Rosalind Wiseman, an internationally-recognized author, mom and expert on teens & parenting for a fun-filled evening of mother-daughter bonding. In addition to celebrating Rosalind’s latest books, the tour will feature an interactive discussion about confidence, friendships, sweat-inducing moments and common mother-daughter challenges. A Q&A session and book signing will follow. The two-hour event is sure to get mothers and daughters talking, laughing and connecting.

As a new school year begins, some girls are starting new schools or have moved to new areas.  This can be a difficult time for them.  It is more important than ever before that parents get and start involved in their teens and tweens lives.

For more information on more dates, tickets and locations for Rosalind Wiseman’s Girl World Fall Tour 2010, click here.

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Phoenix, AZ – Monday, September 20, 2010
Host: Changing Hands Bookstore
Location: Desert Mountain High School Auditorium, 12575 East Vía Linda, Scottsdale
Time: 6:30-8:30pm
Tickets: Available from Changing Hands in-store, or by calling (480) 730-0205.

Salt Lake City, UT – Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Host: The King’s English Bookshop
Location: Rowland Hall St. Mark’s; Larimer Auditorium; Lincoln Street Campus, 843 Lincoln Street, Salt Lake City
Time: 7-9pm
Tickets: Available from The King’s English online, in-store, or by calling (801) 484-9100.

Tampa, FL – Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Host: Inkwood Books
Location: St. Mary’s Episcopal Day School Auditorium, 2101 South Hubert Avenue, Tampa
Time: 6:30-8:30pm
Tickets: TBA

Baltimore, MD – Monday, October 18, 2010
Host: Greetings & Readings
Location: Catonsville High School Auditorium, 421 Bloomsbury Avenue, Baltimore
Time: 7-9pm
Tickets: TBA

Pittsburgh, PA – Friday, November 5, 2010
Host: Joseph-Beth Booksellers
Location: Chatham University’s Campbell Memorial Chapel, Shady Side Campus, Woodland Road, Pittsburgh
Time: 7-9pm
Tickets: TBA

Hartford, CT- Monday, November 15, 2010
Host: RJ Julia Booksellers
Location: Smith Middle School, 216 Addison Road, Glastonbury
Time: TBA
Tickets: TBA

Ridgewood, NJ – Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Host: Books, Bytes & Beyond
Location: George Washington Middle School, 155 Washington Place, Ridgewood
Time: 7-9pm
Tickets: TBA

Miami, FL – Tuesday,  December 7, 2010
Host: Books & Books
Location: Temple Judea, 5500 Granada Boulevard, Coral Gables
Time: 7-9pm
Tickets: TBA

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I was a bully, but I stopped….. Two Books Published by Middle Schoolers

by Sue Scheff on Aug 14, 2010


Broward County is no stranger to bullying.  Last school year Deerfield Beach Middle School held the spotlight in the most negative of circumstances.  Starting with Michael Brewer who was nearly burned to death, and several months later the brutal and savage beating of Josie Ratley.

As a community, a group of Broward County middle school students joined together with the help of State Farm, The Broward Sheriff’s Office and The Humanity Project to publish two books targeted at combating bullying.

The Miami Herald reported one of the bullying books is about a privileged and selfish character Lucina who has everything she wants but degrades everyone who doesn’t share her fortune. The other book is about Michael, who is dyslexic and of black and Asian heritage. He’s influenced by his abusive father to bully others.

Students also worked on illustrations and cover art. The books will be used as part of The Humanity Project’s innovative Anti-bullying Through the Arts program in Broward during the school year.

Congratulations to all these students and a special thanks to State Farm, Broward County Sheriff’s Office and The Humanity Project for stepping up and reaching out to our kids – our future!

Learn more at the www.TheHumanityProject.com.

Sources: Miami Herald, The Humanity Project

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