Sue Scheff: Don’t Let Your Luck Run Out on St. Patrick’s Day
by Sue Scheff on Mar 13, 2010
“I’m fine to drive.”
Expect to hear this line a lot on March 17th, St. Patrick’s Day. Known as much for drinking as it is for shamrocks and the color green, this holiday is a fun time to be out with friends, but can be a dangerous time to be out on the road. Too many people are under the misconception that you need to be “falling down drunk” to be too impaired to drive safely. They couldn’t be more wrong.
Nearly 12,000 people were killed in crashes involving an alcohol-impaired driver in 2008. That’s about one person every 45 minutes. You can’t help but wonder if those lives might have been saved if only people had thought twice before getting behind the wheel.
The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) and the Ad Council are continuing to work together on the “Buzzed Driving is Drunk Driving” PSA campaign. Buzzed drivers drink and drive, but do not consider themselves a hazard on the roadway because they have had “only a few drinks.” BuzzedDriving hopes to educate people on the reality that consuming even a few drinks can impair driving and that “Buzzed Driving is Drunk Driving.”
With St. Patrick’s Day approaching, it’s important that drivers be reminded about the dangers of buzzed driving. We need your help.
Get the word out that before going out after work to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day, you should be sure to line up alternative transportation: have the number for a taxi, know the area public transportation system or designate a sober driver.
Follow BuzzedDriving on Twitter (@buzzeddriving) and Facebook to get the latest updates and news from NHTSA. You can also visit their campaign Web site to sign a pledge not to drive buzzed, play an interactive game demonstrating how drinking can impair driving and hear a personal story from someone who has been affected by buzzed driving.
Enjoy St. Patrick’s Day and remember safety always comes first!
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Tags: Buzzed Driving, Driving Drunk, Drunk Driving, Parenting Resources, Parenting Teens, Parents Universal Resource Experts, Sue Scheff, Teen Health, Teen Issues
Sue Scheff: Underage Drinking and Teens – FAMILY TALK
by Sue Scheff on Mar 07, 2010
Each year at this time, teens begin planning for some of the most memorable moments of their lives, including celebrating proms and graduations with friends and family. To help keep these celebrations safe for everyone, it¹s important to remind adults to encourage teens to celebrate safely and without alcohol.
According to the 2009 GfK Roper Youth Report, 68 percent of youth, ages 8 to 17, cite their parents as the number one influence on their decisions about whether they drink alcohol or not. In addition, government research shows that teens who report drinking usually get their alcohol from adults.
To help prevent underage drinking, the Family Talk program encourages open, honest communication between parents and children. Developed by an advisory panel of education, family counseling, child psychology and alcohol treatment professionals, Family Talk materials are distributed free to parents and educators by Anheuser-Busch and its national network of distributors.
These materials may be downloaded at www.familytalkonline.com in English and Spanish.
Progress is being made in the fight against underage drinking, by raising awareness and through sound educational programs and strong partnerships. In fact, 85 percent of adolescents, ages 12 to 17, are doing the right thing by not drinking, according to the 2008 National Survey on Drug Use and Health. In addition, the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration reports that teen drunk-driving fatalities have declined 34 percent since 2000.
Be an educated parent, you will have safer and healthier teens.
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Tags: Binge drinking, Family Talk, Parenting Teens, Parents Universal Resource Experts, Sue Scheff, Teen Drinking, Teen Health, Teen Help, Teen Issues, Underage Drinking
Sue Scheff: Teens with Depression
by Sue Scheff on Mar 06, 2010
With the recent headlines of the suicide of Marie Osmond’s son and TV teen actor of Growing Pains, Andrew Koenig, we are learning and hearing more about depression in children as well as a keen awareness to suicidal signs in our teens.
Do you suspect your child is suffering with depression? Are you concerned your teen is becoming more withdrawn, secretive, isolated? Childhood and teenage depression is often in hiding.
What is pediatric depression?
It’s normal for children and teenagers to have sad or moody days, but when those feelings last for two weeks or longer, it could indicate that something more serious is going on. As adults, it can be hard for us to accept that children can also have depression, but research is going on now to help find new medicines for children with depression in the future.
If your child has been displaying one or more of these signs of depression for at least two weeks, and they are interfering with his/her ability to function, then he/she may be depressed and eligible to take part in this research:
- Frequent sadness, or crying
- Decreased interest in activities
- Persistent boredom; low energy
- Social isolation
- Low self-esteem and guilt
- Extreme sensitivity to rejection or failure
- Increased irritability, anger, or hostility
- Frequent absences from school or poor performance in school
- Poor concentration
- A major change in eating and/or sleeping patterns
- Talk of, or efforts to run away from home
Source: Kids With Depression
Are you worried or concerned that your child or teen is struggling with depression? Visit www.kidswithdepression.com and learn more.
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Tags: Depression, Parenting, Parenting Teens, Parenting Tips, Parents Universal Resource Experts, Sue Scheff, Teen Depression, Teen Health, Teen Help, Teen Sadness, Teen Suicide
Sue Scheff: National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day: Free publications promote awareness
by Sue Scheff on Mar 05, 2010
Parenting involves many more challenges and issues today than generations earlier. While years ago our parents concerns were with a teen getting pregnant or a form of STD such as Herpes, today there are many more serious concerns that both women and girls need to be aware of. This doesn’t mean these issues didn’t exist years ago, however it does mean we have come further in our education of knowledge and awareness.
March 10th is National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day (NWGHAAD). This a nationwide initiative, coordinated by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ Office on Women’s Health to raise awareness of the increasing impact of HIV/AIDS on women and girls. Read more about NWGHAAD.
When women are faced with HIV/AIDS, their physical health is not the only issue at hand. Often accompanying the physical illness associated with the virus are mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety.
The Office on Women’s Health has two publications-one for health professionals and one for consumers-that focus on building positive awareness about women’s mental health. They address environmental and cultural barriers to seeking help and suggest gender-appropriate strategies for recovery.
Order your free mental health publications for women today! Click here.
Be an educated parent, you will have healthier teens!
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Tags: AIDS, HIV, Parenting Resources, Parenting Teens, Parents Universal Resource Experts, Sex Education, STD, Sue Scheff, Teen Health, Teen Help, Teen Sex
Sue Scheff: Fake Pot – Do you know what your teens are smoking?
by Sue Scheff on Mar 04, 2010
As parents scramble to keep up with the challenges of raising teens today, they are now thrown another curve ball. Most know that smoking pot, although not legal and seems to becoming more addictive among youths, is a trend that some parents brush under the rug with the justification that “it is only pot.”
Recently after speaking with a parent of an at risk teen, she said her therapist actually told her teen it was “okay” to smoke marijuana. Excuse me? This parent was horrified and this only empowered the teen. Obviously they are not returning to that therapist, but how many others feel this way?
Parenting is hard enough, and it is the parent that is the strongest tool in helping our teens to understand the dangers of drug abuse.
Now we have what is being called, K2 – or “Spice,” Genie” and “Zohai” – that is commonly sold in head shops as incense and referred to as the “fake-pot“. Produced in China and Korea, the mixture of herbs and spices is sprayed with a synthetic compound chemically similar to THC, the psychoactive ingredient in marijuana. Users roll it up in joints or inhale it from pipes, just like the real thing. – AP
K2 costs between $20 and $50 for three grams, similar to the street price of marijuana, but with the key advantages of being legal and undetectable in drug tests. The Federal Drug Enforcement Administration has classified it a “drug or chemical of concern.”
Kansas and Missouri already have bills to ban the mystery substance. What is your state doing about this latest trend?
Be an educated parent, you will have safer and healthier teens.
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Tags: Drug Use, Fake Marijuana, K2, Parenting, Parenting Tips, Parents Universal Resource Experts, Peer Pressure, Smoking Pot, Substance Abuse, Sue Scheff, Teen Health, Teen Help
Sue Scheff: Could you be your teen’s drug supplier?
by Sue Scheff on Feb 26, 2010
Have you ever considered you may be your child’s drug provider? Have you ever thought when they visit your parents (their grandparents) your teens may be taking their medications too? Broward County, Florida offers Operation Medicine Cabinet.
According to the United Way Commission on Substance Abuse, prescription drug abuse is skyrocketing. This fact has fed the increasing rates of opiate-related deaths in recent years. In addition, the DEA reports that painkillers now cause more drug overdose deaths than cocaine and heroin combined. Florida teens abuse prescription pain relievers more than any other illicit drugs except marijuana, according to the 2008 Florida Youth Substance Abuse survey.
While illegal drug use among teens is falling, teen prescription drug abuse is on the rise. One in five teens has abused a prescription pain medication, and in Florida prescription drugs have killed 300% more people than illegal drugs.
Operation Medicine Cabinet helps you rid your medicine cabinet from expired or unnecessary prescriptions. These prescriptions, in the wrong hands, can be harmful and dangerous. Participants can drop off prescription drugs with no questions asked and receive a $5.00 gift card to local stores and pharmacies. For information about when and where BSO will hold its next “take back” program, download the schedule and plan you drop off.
Take the time to secure your medicine cabinet against teenagers and children. Having a teen overdose can be devastating. How would you feel if he/she overdosed on your very own prescription? Don’t take that chance. Be proactive today!
For more information outside of Broward County, Florida, click here.
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Tags: Operation Medicine Cabinet, Parenting, Parenting Tips, Parents Universal Resource Experts, Prescription Drug Use, Substance Abuse, Sue Scheff, Teen Drug Abuse, Teen Drug Use, Teen Health, Teen Help
Sue Scheff: 16 and Pregnant – Reality Show of Teen Pregnancy
by Sue Scheff on Feb 22, 2010
Parenting today can be one of the most difficult jobs any adult will have. “Adult” being the operative word, when a teenager has a child it can be even more stressful and complicated.
16 and Pregnant, which airs on MTV and is hosted by Dr. Drew, will give you a birds-eye view of teenagers having babies. From deciding on whether to keep the baby, to giving birth, 16 and Pregnant will take you inside the lives of girls living through the difficult process being pregnant and having a baby.
In 16 and Pregnant, you will see a variety of girls with a variety of decisions. What works best for them, and what is best for their child. Will the father be involved, or does he want to be involved?
These teens learn that being pregnant means having to grow up very fast. The new challenges they face, the financial responsibilities compounded with the emotional roller coaster ride of having a baby and still being a child (teen).
What about school? What choices will they make? 16 and Pregnant will take you through the lives of several young teens and definitely can be an eye-opener to those that believe that having a baby is easy. From going out to party to growing up real fast, being pregnant is a responsibility that is not easy.
These are expecting teens experiencing the consequences of unprotected sex and learning about the unexpected challenges of being pregnant raising a baby.
Be an educated parent, talk to your teens about sex. Talk to your kids period.
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Tags: Parents Universal Resource Experts, Sue Scheff, Teen Health, Teen Help, Teen Moms, Teen Parenting, Teen Pregnancy
Sue Scheff: Winter Games, Spring Youth Sports
by Sue Scheff on Feb 15, 2010
As many parents in the Northeast are shoveling their way through heavy drifts of snow, the Southern states, although chilly, are gearing up for their spring sport season with their children.
As the Winter Games opened this week, the entire family can join and watch the athletes compete against countries worldwide. Does your child have an athletic dream?
VolunteerSpot’s free and easy online coordination tool saves time and simplifies parent participation in youth sports. They have a new eBook with sample online sign up sheets to give parents ideas of all the ways they can ask for (and get) help with their team activities.
Whether it’s Little League, soccer, swimming, softball, lacrosse, or all of the above, spring is an exciting time for children participating in youth sports. For parents, though, their busy schedules are about to get a whole lot busier! Beyond spending joyful hours cheering on the sidelines, parents provide the backbone for any successful youth sports program by participating as coaches, referees, groundskeepers, timers, bringing snacks, driving carpools, and much more.
Parent leaders that use VolunteerSpot reduce their planning and coordinating time by several hours a week and eliminate late-night reply-all emails, last-minute phone tag and hard-to-read clipboard sign up sheets. Team parents appreciate how easy it is to sign up and pick their days to help, with a few clicks from an email or through a link on the team website. VolunteerSpot then sends automated email reminders to help everyone remember and keep their commitments.
Here are a few ways parents are using VolunteerSpot to save time and power team and league activities:
- Snack schedule sign up sheets
- Concessions stand volunteer scheduling
- Tournament scheduling (officials, linesmen, score keepers, awards, setup/cleanup)
- Assistant coaches, practice helpers, and field maintenance
- Swim meet volunteer scheduling
- Fundraisers like carwashes, carnivals, fun runs, and picnics
The time is now to start planning your spring and summer activities, let VolunteerSpot help you be ready to spring into your children’s sports! Think warm!
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Tags: Parenting, Parents Universal Resource Experts, Sue Scheff, Teen Health, Teen Sports, VolunteerSpot, Youth Sports
Sue Scheff: College Drinking – Hangover Hacks
by Sue Scheff on Jan 21, 2010
As a guest Blogger, Jesse Young shares some insights on college drinking and ways to beat the hangover blues. As a parent advocate, I would simply say, just don’t drink. However in reality, we know it is not that easy.
57 Hangover Hacks Every College Kid Needs to Know
By Jesse Young
For many college students, college is a time to experiment, enjoy newfound freedom and party it up–when they’re not busy studying, of course. Unfortunately, one of the side effects of spending a night drinking alcohol is the head-pounding, stomach churning wrath of the hangover. Here are some tips to help you learn to conquer, or at least manage, the effects of a long night of partying so you can get back to your studies and feeling like a normal human being.
Pre-Drinking
Use these tips to prepare yourself before you ever take your first drink.
- Eat something. Having a little something in your stomach can help you better pace your drinking and make you feel better the next day. Aim for something with a good amount of carbs and fat to start your night.
- Take some B6. Studies have shown that vitamin B6 may help you avoid a hangover if it’s taken before drinking, during drinking, and before bed. Even at worst, all you’ll have in your system is more vitamins, so give it a try.
- Have a good time. While it might be a given, research has shown that those who have a positive outlook on life generally have less intense hangovers than those who are angry or depressed.
- Eat olive oil. Coat your stomach with this age-old oil to help protect you from the worst of a hangover. The fat content of olive oil has traditionally been believed to reduce the impact of hangovers.
- Get hydrated. Many of the effects of a hangover are caused by the dehydration of the body from alcohol and caffeinated beverages. Make sure you drink enough water to start counteracting this early on in the evening.
- Try a glass of milk. Some believe that it coats the stomach and helps the alcohol you’ll soon be pouring down the hatch from absorbing as quickly.
- Know your limits. Before you ever head out, you should know how much you can safely drink. While everyone wants to have a good time, what might have been a simple hangover can quickly turn into alcohol poisoning if you get too carried away. Know what you can drink and stick to it.
While Drinking
These tips can help you mitigate the severity of your hangover while you’re enjoying a night on the town.
- Drink water between drinks. This will help you to pace your drinking and ensure that you are rehydrating your body as you go through the night.
- Avoid caffeinated mixers. Caffeine and alcohol are two substances that are great at dehydrating the body and combining them is just asking for a hangover the next day.
- Limit your drinking. It might sound pretty simple, but college students aren’t exactly known for their conservative sipping when it comes to drinking. Avoid binge drinking and you’ll do your body a great service and avoid a whole lot of hangovers in the process.
- Stick with beer. Mixed drinks might taste delicious but they can have varying amounts of alcohol in them based on how much the bartender chooses to put in. With beer, you always know what you’re getting so you can moderate your drinking.
- Have a snack. Enjoying a few peanuts or chips while you’re drinking can help slow down alcohol absorption and taste pretty good to boot.
- Choose hangover-friendly alcohols. You don’t have to be a connoisseur of booze to figure out that the cheaper the alcohol the worse hangover it will probably give you. If you’re planning for a long night of drinking, steer clear of red wines, and cheap, dark liquors if you want to wake up on the right side of the bed.
- Don’t smoke. Smoking and drinking seem like a match made in heaven, but smoking can rob your body of oxygen and leave you with a worse hangover than before.
- Don’t mix. The old saying goes, “Beer before liquor, never sicker. Liquor before beer, in the clear” and those can be words to drink by. Of course, you’re far better off not mixing your alcohols at al,l as studies have shown that mixing in general can worsen your hangover.
- Pace yourself. Use this chart to determine the rate you should be drinking at to avoid getting completely wasted and ending up with a wicked hangover.
Before Bed
Don’t just pass out when you get home. Instead, try a few of these pointers to help you avoid feeling like death warmed over the next day.
- Forget the pain killers. Mixing alcohol and medication can be deadly. Wait until morning (or if it’s already morning, whenever you get up) to take any ache relieving medication you might need.
- More water. Before you go to sleep is a good time to stock your body up on water. You will thank yourself for it in the morning.
- Have a vitamin. Drinking can be hard on your body, so give it the fuel it needs to repair itself while you’re sleeping by taking a multi-vitamin before bed. If you generally get queasy from vitamins, a chewable option might be best.
- Stop drinking. You shouldn’t be drinking as you are climbing into bed, as awesome as that might sound to your friends. Stop drinking at least an hour before you head to sleep to your body has a chance to get some of the alcohol out of your system.
- Have a little OJ. Some studies suggest that vitamin C can help speed up the process of getting that alcohol through your system. If you can’t stand orange juice, any other juice high in vitamin C will do.
- Eat a little something. If you’ve had a lot to drink, you can do yourself a favor by having a high-carb snack before bed. It might pack on some calories but it will also help relieve your hangover.
Next Day
Even the best preparation can’t help you avoid a hangover if you’ve truly gone wild the night before. Try a few of these tips to ease your hangover pain the next day.
- Take ibuprofen. If your head is pounding take ibuprofen to help get relief. To avoid further stomach upset, you might want to have a piece of toast or some cereal first, as ibuprofen can irritate the stomach.
- Stay in bed. There is no hangover remedy as effective as sleep. Get as much of it as you can as it allows your body to get the alcohol out of your system while you’re safely tucked away into dreamland and out of hangoverville.
- Take a shower. It might not get rid of your hangover, but it sure will help you feel better and probably smell a whole lot better. If nothing else, it will help you feel gross in one less way while you’re hung over.
- Have something to eat. Holding down food isn’t always the easiest thing when you wake up with a hangover, but it’s important to try to eat something. Start with toast or crackers and work your way up.
- Avoid any dehydrating foods and drinks. You might be craving a cup of coffee, but beware as the caffeine it contains could make you feel just as bad as good. Try to stick to foods and drinks that will help your body, not hinder it.
- Get moving as soon as you can. You don’t have to be running around the block, but getting active can help you to feel better faster in some cases. If you want an easy avenue, try some yoga poses as they have been shown to help aid in detoxification.
- Water, water, water. The worst parts of your hangover are caused by simple dehydration. Get as much water in your system as you can handle.
- Hang in there. There is no surefire way to get rid of a hangover besides waiting it out, so stay in your jammies, chug water and lay around the house until you’re feeling like your old self again. It might take all day, but you’ll get there.
- Try a sauna. Many people in colder climes, like Russia, believe that a sauna can help alleviate the effects of a hangover by causing you to sweat the toxins out. If you decide to try this, make sure to drink lots of water to stay hydrated while you’re sweating out your boozing.
- Take a bath. Similarly, a warm bath can be a good remedy as well, helping you to relax and feel clean. Some say adding a little wasabi to the mix couldn’t hurt either.
- Give yourself a massage. If you don’t have anyone around, you can give yourself a massage and help motivate your body to get those toxins out of there.
Hangover Friendly Drinks
While some people claim that the hair of the dog that bit you (even more alcohol) is the best remedy, medical science has shown that that’s absolutely the worst thing you can do for yourself. Try one of these drinks instead.
- Emergen-C. This vitamin C-filled drink will help you battle off your hangover without the stomach-irritating acid of orange juice.
- Green tea. Green tea is just plain good for you and in many places in the world it’s a traditional hangover cure. Give it a try the next time you don’t feel so good the morning after.
- Salt solutions. Try adding a little salt to your water to make it easier for your body to handle while you’re hung over. Just don’t add too much as it can dehydrate you.
- Pedialyte. While this drink is formulated for kids, it has plenty of ingredients in it to help adults who don’t feel well.
- Fruit juice. Fruit juices have vitamin C and sugar, both of which can help you battle the effects of a hangover. Just beware of those that are especially acidic, as this can make your stomach feel even worse.
- Carbonated soda. While you may want to avoid the caffeinated kinds, the carbonation of soda can help relieve an upset stomach and the sugar can help return your blood sugar levels to normal.
- Ginger ale. Ginger is an age-old cure for stomach upsets. Make sure you’re getting a ginger ale with real ginger and you could get a little relief from nausea and the feeling like the room is spinning.
- Gatorade. While a night of drinking doesn’t really have the same benefits as running a marathon, it can take the same kind of toll on your body. Drinking sports drinks can help you replenish your sugars, hydrate you, and get you balanced and back to normal.
Hangover Friendly Foods
If your stomach wants to reject just about anything you put in there, try one of these foods first to help you re-balance your body and get on the path to feeling better.
- Crackers. If your stomach is particularly upset, crackers may be all you’re able to keep down. Keep nibbling away at those saltines as they will help your recovery greatly.
- Rice. Rice is a pretty inoffensive food and can help you get something in your stomach and your body on the path to feeling better.
- Pasta. The same goes for pasta. Avoid heavy, creamy sauces and you’ll be able to load up on hangover fighting carbs.
- Eggs. Eat a healthy breakfast of eggs to get a dose of cysteine, a substance that fights off the by-products of your body’s metabolization of alcohol.
- Asparagus. Some believe that eating asparagus before and after drinking can boost the enzymes responsible for breaking alcohol down in your system.
- Bananas. With loads of potassium, bananas are one of the classic hangover foods as they won’t hurt your stomach and contain substances that can help you recover.
- Chicken soup. Soup isn’t just good for when you have a cold, it can also help you battle through a hangover with helpful proteins and water.
- BLT. Team up proteins and carbs in a bacon sandwich to do a number on your hangover symptoms.
Something Completely Different
You likely won’t have many of these remedies lying around the house, but if you’ve already tried everything else, why not truck on down to the grocery store and give these a whirl?
- Prickly pear extract. One study has shown that taking this in pill form helped to stave off hangover symptoms like dry mouth and nausea.
- Bifidus powder. It might cost you a pretty penny, but this protein powder will help you feel better faster. Isn’t that priceless?
- Evening primrose oil. Find this age-old remedy at your local health food store. It will help your stomach feel better and ease the impact of your drinking on your liver.
- Milk thistle. This herb, when taken in a pill before bed, is sworn by in many areas of the world.
- Pickle juice. It might not be the most appetizing thing to drink, but some believe this interesting beverage could help your hangover by containing both salt and water.
- Cumin seeds. One of the properties of this herbal seed’s oil is said to be sobering you up quickly, and it is also used to restore energy, settle the stomach and more.
- Raw egg. If you can somehow choke it down, many claim it is a big help in getting rid of a hangover. You can aid in the process by mixing it with orange juice.
- Ginseng. Ginseng isn’t just for old people, it can also help give you a burst of energy and help your body process the alcohol in your system.
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Sue Scheff: How to Cope When Your Kids Grow Up Too Fast
by Sue Scheff on Jan 20, 2010
Parenting, parenting and more parenting. As much as we rush through our days to get to all the activities, school, homework and more, it seems like it was only yesterday we were changing diapers or teaching our child to ride a bike. Today’s generation has new issues and trying times as well as keeping up with parenting, we have to keep up with technology and so much more.
Guest writer, Nancy Simmons, wrote an excellent article on - How to Cope When Your Kids Grow Up to Fast, and has asked me to share it. It offfered educational and informational tips for you!
How to Cope When Your Kids Grow Up Too Fast
By Nancy Simmons
It’s a tough job being a parent – there are no rules or policies and you have to follow your heart at times and your head at others. And with today’s kids, it’s very difficult to do the right thing because they don’t seem like children at all, even though they’ve barely lived 10 years. They’re growing up faster than they should – not their bodies, but their brains, mentality, and emotional psyche. They know much more than they should, and they’re quick to learn and absorb; and even though this is a good thing when it comes to positive aspects like knowledge, technology and learning, when it comes to areas that are shaded in gray like sex, drugs, alcohol, violence, pregnancy and abortion, parents have no clue as to how to deal with the amount of information (some of it that’s not right too) that their children know.
We grew up in a different world, one where television and movies were toned down and where there was no Internet. Getting information today is as easy as pie – the Internet tells you just about anything you want to know. Children as young as 10 and 11 want to wear makeup, drink and be sexually active, just because their friends are doing it and they don’t want to be left out. And coping with them without alienating them is a tough task, one that parents would find easier if they:
- Stay in tune with their children’s lives: As a parent, you must know what your child is up to, who their friends are, and what’s going on in their minds. That’s not to say that you must snoop around their stuff or do things behind their back, but it’s a good idea to watch their behavior as they grow and check for signs of change as they cross the age of 10. That’s when they are likely to be influenced by their peers and tempted to try forbidden things. You certainly don’t want your preteen experimenting with sex or drugs just because they think it’s cool, with you being left in the dark about it.
- Can talk to their children openly: Parent-children relationships work better when there’s a layer of friendship in between the two. When your child seems on the verge of becoming an adult, both mentally and physically, it’s important that they’re able to come to you with all their problems and secrets. This is possible only if you keep an open mind and are not quick to judge and condemn. A close friend had sex when she was 13, and later, because she was scared that she was pregnant, she confided in her dad the whole story. He was very understanding and helped her cope with the issue, without once berating or shouting at her. This attitude changed her completely – she became more responsible because of her father’s open and understanding behavior, and today, she’s a balanced and happy adult.
- Learn to draw the line somewhere: Kids today live in an entirely different world from the one you grew up in, so they tend to wear trendier clothes and wear makeup long before you were allowed to do so. Rather than denying them all that they ask for and risk them going behind your back, give in a little regarding issues that are relatively trivial. At the same time, it’s best not to encourage or turn a blind eye to drinking, sexual activity or anything else that could have long-lasting and serious repercussions just because you don’t want conflict with your child.
- Realize that each child is different: You know your child better than anyone else, so use your judgment to deal with sensitive issues according to their temperament and attitude. Don’t follow what your friends or siblings are doing with their children; there’s no guarantee that what works for one child will work for another. The better you’re able to read your child, the more you’ll be able to help them as they grapple with issues that are beyond their understanding.
Children respond better to love and understanding rather than discipline and punishment, so assess each situation and act accordingly instead of blindly following rules.
By-line:
This guest post is contributed by Nancy Simmons, who writes on the topic of online science degree . She welcomes your comments at her email address: nancy.simmons09@gmail.com .
Thank you, Nancy, for sharing this valuable information.
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