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Sue Scheff: Teen Love and Teen Sex

by Sue Scheff on Jul 28, 2010

Hollywood, Florida resident and world famous Love Psychic, Jill Dahne is speaking out to help educate and inform teens about sex today. As a parent of two beautiful children, Jill knows the importance of keeping the lines of communication open with her kids.

Jill Dahne stated that she has many teenagers emailing her and calling her about having sex, or worrying that they will never find a boyfriend or girlfriend.

This amazing Love Psychic, who has predicted over a thousand marriages, as well as listed as the #1 Love Psychic in The Top 100 Psychic’s in America, knows what is important in life. Family, friends and first and foremost love.

When asked about what was the most important message she wanted teens to know, she said:

“Teenagers today all want to fit in. They will call me or email me and tell me their parents can’t afford the expensive clothes or sneakers that others are wearing, or they feel they are ugly and can’t afford to get the highlights that many teen girls get. Body image is a major concern with many teen girls and you would be surprised how many boys are concerned about it too.”

Jill Dahne continues:

“I tell them over and over again, they need to learn to love themselves before they can love another person or even expect another person to love them back. Acceptance can be hard for teens, but if they look hard enough there is always something unique they have to offer that no one else has.”

For all the teens that continue to ask the famous Matchmaker and Love Psychic “if they should have sex“, the answer is always clear:

“Although I don’t think teens should be having sex, not only because of the risk of teen pregnancy but now the risks are higher with deadly STD’s. I am also not naive to the fact teens will have sex, so with that I always encourage them to talk to their parents, if they can, as well as learn about forms of protection. I refer many teens to TeenTalk which is a website that helps them understand their choices and options. I always reiterate to teens that just because you have sex with a person don’t assume the person is love with you.”

Jill Dahne wanted to add one more comment to teenagers:

“Love is magical, love is rewarding, love is trusting, love is a lot of things and at a young age it can sometimes be a facade. If you decide to have sex, be sure it is your decision and you are not being pressured into it. Understand the consequences and in many cases your teen love doesn’t end up being your soul mate.”

Special thank you to Jill Dahne for her time and insights. You can email Jill at jill@jilldahne.com or call her at 954-964-3541.

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Sue Scheff: Teen Sex Game – SNAP – Parents be on alert

by Sue Scheff on Jan 27, 2010

A very sticky topic, jelly bracelets. Why would these harmless bracelets be dangerous? What is going on in our society to create such disturbing games being played by our teens and tweens?

Since being an educated parent will help you to have healthier and safer teens, you need to be aware of these types of games that are being played. In a previous article, Rainbow Parties, shocked many. This bracelet game, Snap, is another blow to a parents mind.

Some people have may have heard about the latest fad in colleges, high schools, even middle schools! This social phenomenon involves “snapping” the bracelet off the wearer, enabling the snapper to earn a sexual favor from the snappee based on the color of the snapped off bracelet.

Here are the color associations:

Yellow - wearer is willing to HUG
Pink - wearer is willing to give a hickey
Orange - wearer is willing to KISS
Purple - wearer is willing to kiss a partner of either sex
Red - wearer is willing to perform a LAP DANCE
Green – indicates that ORAL SEX can be performed on a girl
Clear – indicates a willingness to do “whatever the snapper wants”
Blue - indicates ORAL SEX performed on a guy
Black - wearer will have regular “missionary” sex
White - wearer will “FLASH” what they have

Sex bracelets are a teen fad with a dangerous sexual twist. The bright colored bracelets are popular with teens, but they’re creating controversy and many children, and even adults, wear these decorative bracelets without any sexual connotation or meaning whatsoever.

Teach your children about the dangers of STD’s. We can talk about sex to our kids, some schools offer sex education and we can even “believe” we have a very open relationship with our teens – but do you really know about these trends? Peer pressure can be part of this dangerous game. The more you know, the more you can help to educate your teens.

These topics are not to scare you, they are to educate you. Your child may be wearing one of these bracelets and it has no association to this disgusting game. It is only about you knowing that this does exist – as hard as it can be to believe.

Watch video - learn more – read more - being educated will help you have safer and healthier teens.

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Sue Scheff: Parenting Teens – Sex Education (STD’s)

by Sue Scheff on Dec 15, 2009

Parenting teens today is challenging and although many of our concerns today are focused on technology and online safety, we need to go back to basics – a trend that a parent of any generation needs to be concerned about. Teens having sex. Years ago it was a fear of pregnancy, today it is so much more. Sexually transmitted diseases are not going away and kids/teens needs to understand the consequences which can not only lead to infertility, but in extreme cases, the end of life.

The latest statistics from the Centers for Disease Control show that there is one sexually transmitted disease that affects more teenage girls than any other age group. Last year, 1.2 million cases of Chlamydia were reported among teens. That’s 100,000 more than the year before.

Source: Connect with Kids

Chlamydia on the Rise

“I don’t really know anything about it.”

– Berit, Age 16, when asked about Chlamydia.

What is Chlamydia?

If you ask many teenage girls, you’re likely to get a blank stare. “I really don’t know much about it at all,” says 14-year-old Tavia.

Or you’ll get a wrong answer. “Um, it’s one of the female body parts,” says 14-year-old Jade.

Most kids don’t know it, but Chlamydia is a sexually transmitted disease that infects 1.2 million teenage girls every year.

Kids often don’t know what it is and they don’t know they have it, because the symptoms may not show up for years when it’s too late.

“Chlamydia infections have been associated with pelvic inflammatory disease, which can cause scarring of the fallopian tubes and lead to infertility,” says infectious disease specialist Dr. Kimberly Workowski.

According to the CDC, nearly half of all new Chlamydia cases are among teenager girls for two reasons: first, teens are less likely than adults to use condoms; second, the immature cells in a teenage girl’s cervix are more vulnerable to infection.

Still, it’s a “very curable disease,” says Dr. Workowski. Curable, if it detected. Many teens, however, don’t suspect they have the disease, and they’re afraid to go to a doctor to get checked.

“I don’t think they’re really educated about that stuff yet, they don’t even listen, they don’t care,” says Jade.

Experts say parents should take the lead, and talk with their child about getting tested.

“You can get a non-invasive test, like a urine sample, to see if there is any evidence of chlamydia,” says Dr. Workowski. The experts say, if parents think to themselves, “there is no way my child has chlamydia!” they need to consider the consequences if they’re wrong.

“You’re daughter…can be infertile,” Dr. Workowski warns, “because of this infection.”

Tips for Parents

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Chlamydia (“kla-mid-ee-uh”) is the “most common bacterial sexually transmitted disease in the US today. It is estimated that 4,000,000 new cases occur each year. The highest rates of Chlamydia infections are among 15-to19-year-olds, regardless of demographics or location.

Chlamydia is transmitted through sexual contact (primarily vaginal and anal) with an infected person. According to the Association for Voluntary Surgical Contraception International (AVSC), about 75% of infected women and half of infected males have no symptoms of chlamydia. In other words, most people infected with the disease don’t even know they have it.

Symptoms

In women, symptoms of chlamydia may include:

an unusual vaginal discharge
bleeding after intercourse
bleeding between menstrual periods
abdominal or pelvic pain

In men, symptoms of chlamydia may include:

discharge from the penis
burning with urination
swollen and/or painful testicles

(Keep in mind, most people with chlamydia have no symptoms at all.)

Treating Chlamydia

The best way to prevent sexually transmitted disease (STDs) is to not have sexual relations. The CDC recommends that people who are sexually active use a condom, and get regular checkups for STDs. Though condoms are good at protecting against some STDs, others such as herpes and HPV may still be passed on through sexual contact.

Most STDs are readily treated, and the earlier treatment is sought and sex partners are warned, the less likely the disease will do irreparable damage such as the formation of scar tissue in the woman which can lead to infertility or an increased likelihood of a tubal pregnancy which can be life threatening.

Chlamydia can be easily treated and cured with antibiotics. It is also important that sexual partners receive treatment in order to prevent getting infected again. Doctors also recommend avoiding sex while being treated to reduce the chances of getting the infection again or giving it to someone else.