Building Teen Self-Esteem: Dove Movement is Inspiring Teen Girls All Over!

by Sue Scheff on Sep 09, 2010


As the Dove Movement for Self-Esteem unfolds, there is a powerful question that is being passed around and one that most people have a variety of answers for.  Whether you are 18 or 58 or even 78, the answers contain lessons from experience.

What do you wish you had known at 13 years old?

Here are some of the responses from the Dove Movement website as well as from Twitter:

  • Play more, worry less!
  • My father really was smart but at 13 I knew it all.
  • Enjoy being young/don’t wish to be older yet.
  • That the abuse I was suffering had nothing to do with how bad I was but how bad the perpetrator was.
  • That being myself was the best way to be ‘cool!’

These are only a few of the fantastic responses the Dove Movement has received.  For those in South Florida, one of the issues that is often heard, is about using sun-screen more generously.  In your teen years many are more concerned about their tan (self-image) than the damage the sun is doing to your skin.  In later years, as the skin starts to wrinkle, it can be a lesson we wish we had known (or listened to our parents).

The Dove Movement for Self-Esteem is being sponsored by the Boys and Girls Club, Girls Inc. and Girls Scouts, Dove is marching out a campaign to help teen girls have a brighter future and step into their own skin by believing in themselves.

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GreatNonprofits: Power of Education Campaign Launches to Identify Leading Nonprofits

by Sue Scheff on Sep 06, 2010


School is officially open and students are getting to know their teachers, schools and peers.  With a struggling economy, some students and schools are in need of supplies and services.  The following nonprofits prove that there is power in people caring about others.  There is energy in teams of supportive groups that have a goal.  The Power of Education Campaign will benefit many children.  Take a moment to read the following press release and visit each of the websites below – you may find where you may be able to make a difference in a child’s academic life.

Press Release by GreatNonprofits:

GreatNonprofits and GuideStar jointly announce the launch of the 2010 Power of Education Campaign, which seeks to identify top-rated organizations working on the many and varied aspects of education.

Partners in the campaign, which will run throughout the month of September, include Everybody Wins! USA, All Kinds of Minds, the National Association for the Education of Homeless Children and Youth, Children’s Literacy Initiative, The Partnership for After School Education, DonorsChoose.org, Givology and Little Kids Rock.

We are also pleased to be working with blogger Sue Scheff, a parent advocate and author during this campaign.

A major goal of the campaign is to raise public awareness about the many excellent nonprofit organizations that work on education issues and initiatives — including schools and their supporting organizations — as a new school year begins for them.

Any educational nonprofit that gets at least 10 new positive stakeholder reviews by midnight, September 30th will be recognized on the GreatNonprofits Top-Rated Education Nonprofits List. “There are so many wonderful nonprofit organizations working on education from all sorts of perspectives,” said Perla Ni, CEO of GreatNonprofits. “Through this campaign, we hope to shine a spotlight on their important work.”

Participants in the campaign can expect to receive increased exposure to donors and volunteers and increased visibility in their communities and the media.

Research conducted by GreatNonprofits indicates that user reviews are having a wide array of impacts on nonprofit organizations – from fundraising to volunteer recruitment to programmatic changes.

The user reviews gathered by GreatNonprofits are written by anyone with personal experience with a nonprofit, i.e., a donor, volunteer, board member, client, or member of the public.

Over the past year more than 450,000 people visited GreatNonprofits to read and write these reviews.

About the Campaign

The Power of Education campaign will run throughout the month of September and all reviews will appear on both the GreatNonprofits.org and GuideStar.org websites. Nonprofits with 10 or more positive reviews will be included on the GreatNonprofits Top-Rated Education Nonprofits List. Review submissions must take place from September 1st through 30th, 2010.

Partners: GuideStar is the leading source of philanthropic information on the web.

Adopt-A-Classroom increases opportunity for student success by empowering teachers with community donors and funds to purchase classroom resources. Adopt-A-Classroom provides an easy and accountable way for anyone to make a tax-deductible donation to any classroom, anywhere in the United States. Every school is listed at http://www.adoptaclassroom.org.

All Kinds of Minds is a nonprofit organization that translates groundbreaking research from neuroscience on how children learn – and vary in their learning – into a powerful framework and set of strategies that help teachers help more students learn and thrive.

Children’s Literacy Initiative Classroom by classroom, CLI coaches pre-k through 3rd grade educators and provides high-quality children’s books to dramatically increase the quality of reading instruction and raise student achievement.

DonorsChoose.org is an online charity that makes it easy for anyone to help students in need.

Everybody Wins! USA is a national children’s literacy and mentoring nonprofit proven to build the skills and love of reading among low-income elementary students. By bringing volunteer mentors into schools for weekly one-on-one Power Lunch reading experiences, everybody wins! – children, schools, volunteers, their companies and ultimately, society.

Givology As an online giving marketplace, Givology leverages small dollar donations to support grassroots education projects and student scholarships in the developing world. Our motto: Learn to Give, Give to Learn.

Little Kids Rock is a nonprofit organization that transforms children’s lives by restoring and revitalizing music education in public schools nationwide.

The National Association for the Education of Homeless Children and Youth (NAEHCY) is the voice and social conscience for the education of children and youth experiencing homelessness.

The Partnership for After School Education (PASE) is a child-focused organization that promotes and supports quality afterschool programs, particularly those serving young people from underserved communities.

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College Scholarships – One for Almost Everyone!

by Sue Scheff on Sep 05, 2010


With today’s economic times, financing your teen’s education is becoming more difficult.  As many teenagers are entering their senior year of high school, many more are busy filling out college applications.  Some are being stung by sticker shock: Just when you have digested the tuition, you realize you have dorm, food, books and more to pay for.

Now is the time to start applying for scholarships.  Even if you are not that 4.0 student, or are not gifted with a strong athletic ability, there are literally many scholarships for a variety of different interests, themes, personalities and more.

Service clubs, companies, and charities give out about $2 billion in private scholarships each year. Roughly 1 million students receive these monies—meaning 1 out of 13 students wins a scholarship. The average of these scholarships is $2,000.

Visit FastWeb.com and you will find some of the strangest and wackiest scholarships out there.  Whether it is for $500.00 or $5000.00, every little bit helps.  They also list academic and athletic monies that are available.  It just takes your time and creativity to apply.

Here is an example of what is available:

For Vegetarians Only:

Calling all veggie-lovers around the world! Two health-conscious winners will be awarded $5,000 in scholarship money from the Vegetarian Resource Group. But be forewarned: unless you love your legumes, this scholarship is not for you. Eligible applicants must not only exemplify a healthy lifestyle, but also promote vegetarianism within their community too. For more information visit: vrg.org.

For Tall People:

You’ve got Michael Jordan’s stature but you’re about as agile as a water buffalo. That’s okay with Tall Clubs International! Males over 6’2” and females above 5’8” are encouraged to apply. The reward is no small (pun intended) amount either; Tall.org awards a whopping $1,000 scholarship to the winner. Find more info at: www.tall.org.

For Plus Sizes:

Say goodbye to the cabbage soup, grapefruit only, or south beach diets! The National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance encourages “fat” people to apply for one of their two merit-based scholarships. The scholarships, offered to already-existing NAAFA members, awards $1,000 for first place, while the second place prize is $500. For more fat-friendly information regarding the scholarships, go to: naafa.org/newevents/scholarship.html

For The Next Generation of Klingons:

Trekkies, leave your capes, figurines, posters and other memorabilia behind. Just bring, well, yourself! Klingon Language Institute, Iin an effort to promote language study, awards one lucky winner a $500 Kor Memorial Scholarship—but don’t worry, fluency in Klingon is not a requirement. Check out the requirements for this scholarship at: kli.org/scholarship/.

There are many more. Learn more, click here.

Source: FastWeb

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Labor Day Weekend Blast: Don’t Drive Drunk or Buzzed! Buzzed Driving is Drunk Driving

by Sue Scheff on Sep 02, 2010


As another long weekend approaches and many have off from work, plans for parties and end of summer picnics are planned.

Did you know that in 2008, just over the Labor Day holiday weekend, 194 people were killed in crashes involving an impaired driver?

This Labor Day Weekend, the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration and the Ad Council are trying to remind people to plan ahead and designate a sober driver for any Labor Day celebration because “Buzzed Driving is Drunk Driving.”

Buzzed driving is drunk driving. Getting behind the wheel after even just one too many drinks can lead to disaster. It is critical to be prepared. One of the best ways to be prepared is to know your options for alternative transportation.

Check out the list of sober/safe ride programs across the country. Find one in your area, and save the number in your cell phone so you always have it on you.

Be an educated parent, you will have safer teens!  Remember, underage drinking is illegal!

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Distracted Riding: Biking and Texting – A Dangerous Combination

by Sue Scheff on Aug 28, 2010


The dangers of distracted driving are well known as Oprah promoted her No Phone Zone campaign and First Coast News is sponsoring the Great Hang Up!  However we rarely see the dangers of bicycling and texting or talking on your cellphone.  Should we call it distracted riding?

As school has opened on the First Coast (Duval, Clay and St. Johns County) you can see many teenagers biking to school or their neighborhood bike spot.  How many of them have you seen reading a text or typing one while biking with one hand on handle bars.

According to the recent Nielsen Study, Florida ranks fourth in the country for cellphone usage and it was clear in the report that teens rule when it comes to texting.  Do they text while biking? Two wheel texting is more common now since school opened, while teens arrange meeting their friends and planning the social events of the day.

Start watching today, how many teens are you witnessing texting, talking and biking?  When you see this, be sure to use extra caution while approaching.  God forbid there is an accident, in many cases the driver of the car will be held accountable when it was the teen that drifted into the road by being distracted.

Stop, talk, repeat, talk again – you can never talk enough about the dangers of distracted biking or driving. Remember parents, be an example to your kids!

Be an educated parent, you will have safer teens!

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Back to School Homework Frustrations

by Sue Scheff on Aug 27, 2010


Many schools are back in session.  Teens that have been swimming, surfing, enjoying the beach, traveling or simply sleeping in over the summer are now faced with studies, homework and deadlines.

Students are trying to get back into the routine of early rising and homework blues, however it doesn’t have to be the blues, you can turn it around.

What can you do as a parent to help them overcome this hump?

8 Ways Parents Can Help With Homework:

1. Offer encouragement. Give your child praise for efforts and for completing assignments.

2. Be available. Encourage your child to do the work independently, but be available for assistance.

3. Maintain a schedule. Establish a set time to do homework each day. You may want to use a calendar to keep track of assignments and due dates.

4. Designate space. Provide a space for homework, stocked with necessary supplies, such as pencils, pens, paper, dictionaries, a computer, and other reference materials.

5. Provide discipline. Help your child focus on homework by removing distractions, such as television, radio, telephone, and interruptions from siblings and friends.

6. Be a role model. Consider doing some of your work, such as paying bills or writing letters, during your child’s homework time.

7. Be supportive. Talk to your child about difficulties with homework. Be willing to talk to your child’s teacher to resolve problems in a positive manner.

8. Involvement. Familiarize yourself with the teacher’s homework policy. Make sure that you and your child understand the teacher’s expectations. At the beginning of the year, you may want to ask your child’s teacher these questions – What kinds of assignments will you give? How often do you give homework? How much time are the students expected to spend on them? What type of involvement do you expect from parents?

Sources: Chicago Public Schools, Connect with Kids

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Parenting Teen Girls and Tweens – Pink Locker Society

by Sue Scheff on Aug 26, 2010


The PINK Locker Society is launched and tweens are talking about it!  Many are  thrilled to have a website that answers many questions and feelings that are difficult or sensitive to talk about.

From creating your Dream Locker with an interactive pop-up, to answering questions about your boy crushes or what to wear, The PINK Locker Society is fun, educational and offers a vast amount of information to help girls go from tween-hood into teen-hood.

Some of the most popular questions that are asked and answers are questions about getting their periods, boy crushes, and breast issues. As a parent, may have talked to their tweens about these sensitive subjects, however having a group of peer to talk to can really help understand they are not alone.  Let’s face it, this is a trying time for them and being able to see others (their peers) are struggling too helps them see their questions are not stupid.

Let’s get cooking! The PINK Locker Society also offers recipes for your girls to create and make.  Helping your daughter build her self-esteem is a major part of growing up and making good choices.

If you have a tween, get ready for the launching of The PINK Locker Society book that will be released September 14th.  Click here to pre-order today!

Be an educated parent, you will have healthier teens!

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Back to school, back to homework and back to exams! Teen Cheating High-Tech

by Sue Scheff on Aug 25, 2010


Back to school, back to homework and back to exams!  With all the techy gadgets out there – are they in the classroom?  In most cases, yes they are.  Does this increase the percentage of students that are using technology to cheat?  Here is a great timely article from Connect with Kids with good parenting tips!

Source: Connect with Kids

High Tech Cheating

“It is kind of obvious, but teachers don’t really notice. They just think you are listening to music.”

– Danny, 16 years old

We see it walking down the street, in the mall, at the dinner table – we know kids today seem to be constantly texting. A new survey of young people from Textplus shows teens are sending text messages during the school day, as well. And what they’re sending might be considered by some as high-tech cheating.

According to survey results, 43 percent of teens 13 to 17 say they text during class… and nearly 80 percent of say they’ve never gotten in trouble with their teachers. But perhaps just as troubling – some kids are using their cell phones and iPods to cheat.

“[Students] will be looking at the test, and they will just have their iPod on their desk, and they will be scrolling down the information on it,” says 16-year-old Danny.

Because the latest iPods display word documents, some students will download cheat sheets.

“I know somebody who does it all the time, and he hasn’t gotten caught yet,” says Carlton, 18.

Other kids will speak the answers into their iPods while studying, then play them back during a test.

“It is kind of obvious, but teachers don’t really notice. They just think you are listening to music,” says Danny.

“Except for maybe the young teachers, I don’t think the older teachers know much about iPods or any new technology,” adds Joie, 16.

While many texts may be about weekend plans or the latest gossip, according to teens surveyed by Textplus, 22 percent say they have texted answers to classmates… and 20 percent said they themselves had been “saved” by such a text.

Still, some kids say that cheating with an iPod is uncommon, partly because it takes too much work.

Nick, 18, says it’s just too much trouble. “If you are going to be wasting your time finding out how to get answers on an iPod, you might as well just study.”

Blake, 16, says there are easier ways to cheat. “I’d rather just go in and copy off of someone else.”

Experts say parents should make sure their kids understand that cheating has consequences.

For example, says 18-year-old Marquis, “I heard of some kid who was taking the SATs and his sister recently passed it. She texted him the answers or something, and he got expelled.”

Amber, 16, says the biggest deterrent is her own conscience. “It makes you feel guilty. It makes me feel guilty when I cheat.”

What Parents Need To Know

A recent edition of the “Report Card on the Ethics of American Youth,” a comprehensive national survey on the ethics of young people administered by The Josephson Institute of Ethics showed the following concerning high school students:

  • Nearly two-thirds (71 percent) admit they cheated on an exam at least once in the past 12 months (45 percent said they did so two or more times)
  • Almost all (92 percent) lied to their parents in the past 12 months (79 percent said they did so two or more times)
  • Over two-thirds (78 percent) lied to a teacher (58 percent two or more times)
  • Over one-quarter (27 percent) said they would lie to get a job
  • Forty percent of males and 30 percent of females say they stole something from a store in the past 12 months

These statistics seem to be indicative of a drift away from the morals and values that parents traditionally associate with society in the United States. In the press release accompanying the preliminary result of the survey, Michael Josephson, founder and president of the Josephson Institute of Ethics and CHARACTER COUNTS!, called on politicians to recognize the vital importance of dealing with “shocking levels of moral illiteracy” as part of any educational reform package. Saying the survey data reveals “a hole in the moral ozone,” Josephson added: “Being sure children can read is certainly essential, but it is no less important that we deal with the alarming rate of cheating, lying and violence that threatens the very fabric of our society.”

When discussing issues of morality and values, how can a parent illustrate what it means to be a person of character? The Center for the 4th and 5th R’s provides the following examples of characteristics of an individual with a positive character. For example, a person of character …

Is trustworthy:

  • Honesty – Tell the truth. Be sincere. Don’t deceive, mislead or be devious or tricky. Don’t betray a trust. Don’t withhold important information in relationships of trust. Don’t steal. Don’t cheat.
  • Integrity – Stand up for your beliefs about right and wrong. Be your best self. Resist social pressures to do things you think are wrong. Walk your talk. Show commitment, courage and self-discipline.
  • Promise-keeping – Keep your word. Honor your commitments. Pay your debts. Return what you borrow.
  • Loyalty – Stand by, support, and protect your family, friends, employers, community and country. Don’t talk behind people’s backs, spread rumors, or engage in harmful gossip. Don’t violate other ethical principles to keep or win a friendship or gain approval. Don’t ask a friend to do something wrong.

Treats all people with respect:

  • Respect – Be courteous and polite. Judge all people on their merits. Be tolerant, appreciative and accepting of individual differences. Don’t abuse, demean or mistreat anyone. Don’t use, manipulate, exploit or take advantage of others. Respect the right of individuals to make decisions about their own lives.

Acts responsibly:

  • Accountability – Think before you act. Consider the possible consequences on all people affected by actions. Think for the long-term. Be reliable. Be accountable. Accept responsibility for the consequences of your choices. Don’t make excuses. Don’t blame others for your mistakes or take credit for others’ achievements. Set a good example for those who look up to you.
  • Pursue excellence – Do your best with what you have. Keep trying. Don’t quit or give up easily. Be diligent and industrious.
  • Self-control – Exercise self-control. Be disciplined.

Is fair and just:

  • Fairness – Treat all people fairly. Be open-minded. Listen to others and try to understand what they are saying and feeling. Make decisions which affect others only on appropriate considerations. Don’t take unfair advantage of others’ mistakes. Don’t take more than your fair share.

Is caring:

  • Caring and kindness – Show you care about others through kindness, caring, sharing and compassion. Live by the Golden Rule. Help others. Don’t be selfish. Don’t be mean, cruel or insensitive to other’s feelings. Be charitable.

Is a good citizen:

  • Citizenship – Play by the rules. Obey laws. Do your share. Respect authority. Stay informed. Vote. Protect your neighbors and community. Pay your taxes. Be charitable and altruistic. Help your community or school by volunteering service. Protect the environment. Conserve natural resources.

According to experts at CHARACTER COUNTS!, character building is most effective when you regularly see and seize opportunities to …

  • Strengthen awareness of moral obligations and the moral significance of choices (ethical consciousness).
  • Enhance the desire to do the right thing (ethical commitment).
  • Improve the ability to foresee potential consequences, devise options and implement principled choices (ethical competency).

When trying to instill morals and values to your child, experts at CHARACTER COUNTS! say it is important to …

  • Be consistent – The moral messages you send must be clear, consistent and repetitive. Children will judge your values not by what you say but by what you do and what you permit them to do. They will judge you not by your best moments but by your last worst act. Thus, everything you say and do, and all that you allow to be said and done in your presence, either reinforces or undermines the credibility of your messages about the importance of good character. Over and over, use the specific language of the core virtues – trustworthiness, respect, responsibility, fairness, caring and citizenship – and be as firm and consistent as you can be about teaching, advocating, modeling and enforcing these “Six Pillars of Character.” When you are tired, rushed or under pressure you are most tempted to rationalize. It may help to remember that the most powerful and lasting lessons about character are taught by making tough choices when the cost of doing the right thing is high.
  • Be concrete – Messages about good attitudes, character traits and conduct should be explicit, direct and specific. Building character and teaching ethics is not an academic undertaking; it must be relevant to the lives and experiences of your children. Talk about character and choices in situations that your children have been in. Comment on and discuss things their friends and teachers have done in terms of the “Six Pillars of Character.”
  • Be creative – Effective character development should be creative. It should be active and involve the child in real decision-making that has real consequences (such as teaching responsibility through allocating money from an allowance or taking care of a pet). Games and role-playing are also effective. Look for “teaching moments,” using good and bad examples from television, movies and the news.

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Teens Hanging with Less Than Desireable Peers – Teen Gangs

by Sue Scheff on Aug 23, 2010


Teen Gang and Gang Violence has taken on a new light in today’s age.

Gangs prey on the weak child that yearns to fit in with a false illusion they are accepted into the “cool crowd”. With most Gangs as with Teen Cults, they can convince your child that joining “their Gang or Cult” will make them a “well-liked and popular” teen as well as one that others may fear.  This gives the teen a false sense of superiority.  Remember, many of today’s teens that are acting out negatively are suffering with extremely low self confidence.  This feeling of power that they believe a gang or cult has can boost their esteem; however they are blinded to the fact that is dangerous.  This is how desperate some teens are to fit in.

In reality, it is a downward spiral that can result in damage both emotionally and psychically. We have found Teen Gangs and Teen Cults are sometimes hard to detect.  They disguise themselves to impress the most intelligent of parents. We have witnessed Gang members who will present themselves as the “good kid from the good family” and you would not suspect their true colors.

If you suspect your child is involved in any Gang Activities or any Cults, please seek local therapy and encourage your child to communicate. This is when the lines of communication need to be wide open. Sometimes this is so hard, and that is when an objective person is always beneficial.  Teen Gangs and Teen Cults are to be taken very seriously.  A child that is involved in a gang can affect the entire family and their safety.  Take this very seriously if you suspect your child is participating in gang activity or cult association.

If you feel your teen is in need of further Boarding School, Military School, Residential or Program Options, please complete our Information Request Form.

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Teen Drinking – Teen Drug Use – Parent Help

by Sue Scheff on Aug 22, 2010


Teen Drug Use and Teen Drinking also known as Substance Abuse amongst teens and even children.

With today’s society, kids have access to many different substances that can be addictive and damaging. If you suspect your child is using drugs or drinking alcohol, please seek help for them as soon as possible. Drug testing is helpful, but not always accurate.  Teen Drug use and Teen Drinking may escalate to addiction.

Parent’s Universal Resource Experts get calls constantly, that a child is only smoking pot. Unfortunately in most cases, marijuana can lead to more severe drugs, and marijuana is considered an illegal drug. Smoking marijuana is damaging to the child’s body, brain and behavior. Even though marijuana is not considered a narcotic, most teens are very hooked on it. Many teens that are on prescribed medications such as Ritalin, Adderall, Strattera, Concerta, Zoloft, Prozac etc. are more at risk when mixing these medications with street drugs. It is critical you speak with your child about this and learn all the side effects.  Educating your child on the potential harm may help them to understand the dangers involved in mixing prescription drugs with street drugs. Awareness is the first step to understanding.

Alcohol is not any different with today’s teens. Like adults, some teens use the substances to escape their problems; however they don’t realize that it is not an escape but rather a deep dark hole. Some teens use substances to “fit in” with the rest of their peers – teen peer pressure. This is when a child really needs to know that they don’t need to “fit in” if it means hurting themselves. Using drug and alcohol is harming them. Especially if a teen is taking prescribed medication (refer to the above paragraph) teen drinking can be harmful. The combination can bring out the worse in a person. Communicating with your teen, as difficult as it can be, is one of the best tools we have.  Even if you think they are not listening, we hope eventually they will hear you.

If your teen is experimenting with this, please step in and get proper help through local resources. If it has extended into an addiction, it is probably time for a Residential Placement. If you feel your child is only experimenting, it is wise to start precautions early. An informed parent is an educated parent.  This can be your life jacket when and if you need the proper intervention.  Always be prepared, it can save you from rash decisions later.

A teen that is just starting to experiment with substance use or starting to become difficult; a solid short term self growth program may be very beneficial for them.  However keep in mind, if this behavior has been escalating over a length of time, the short term program may only serve as a temporary band-aid.

Drugs and Alcoholic usage is definitely a sign that your child needs help. Teen Drug Addiction and Teen Drinking is a serious problem in today’s society; if you suspect your child is using substances, especially if they are on prescribed medications, start seeking local help.  If the local resources become exhausted, and you are still experiencing difficulties, it may be time for the next step; Therapeutic Boarding School or Residential Treatment Center.

If you feel your teen is in need of further Boarding School, Residential Therapy or Program Options, please complete our Information Request Form.

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