Sue Scheff: We’ve Got Issues – Children and Parents in the Age of Medication

by Sue Scheff on Jun 04, 2010


What a hot topic this is!  In February New York Times best selling author, Judith Warner released this hot selling book, We’ve Got Issues, Children and Parent in the Age of Medication. In an interview with the author, she answered many questions that are many the minds of parents everywhere.  Take the time to learn about why Judith Warner wrote this book and all the value it has to offer to you and your child.

1. What were some of the assumptions you started with when you began writing this book?

I assumed that children were being grossly overdiagnosed and overmedicated. I assumed that society’s neuroses were being turned into pathologies in children; that what was being diagnosed as disorders in them was everything that was wrong in the competitive, high performance, driven, anxiety-filled world of childhood and family life in America today. The basic assumption was that those disorders, which no one seemed to have had when I was a kid – weren’t real, or were at least being diagnosed far more frequently than they ought to have been. How I knew this, I don’t know. Mixed in with the thought that the diagnoses were bogus was the idea that the medications used to treat children didn’t work; that they were a palliative for parents; and that parents were searching for an easy way out of their kids’ problems rather than looking at themselves, their families or society in general. And all of that rested on a basic disbelief in the direction that modern psychiatry was taking and a basic disrespect for parents who seemed to me to be willing to sacrifice their kids to their own ambitions and laziness. It was easy to have all these views. They were, and still are—although perhaps to a slightly lesser degree—the basic lens through which a lot of children’s mental health issues continue to be viewed. (For example, there’s still a lot of disbelief out there that things like ADHD or bipolar disorder are real. A lot of people still believe these problems are being grossly exaggerated and over-treated and think this is happening because parents want to “perfect” their kids).

2. What happened as you started working on the book, trying to report the various pieces of it?

As I started working on the book, I very quickly ran into problems. When I tried to back up the idea that what these kids had wrong with them wasn’t real, it became impossible to prove. I contacted experts – prominent psychologists and psychiatrists I’d seen quoted in the media indicating that kids were being overdiagnosed or overmedicated, people whose beliefs, I thought, paralleled my assumptions – and they didn’t actually believe that the mental disorders I was asking about weren’t real. And those who did believe that disorders like ADHD were socially constructed forms of disease tended to be people who were out on the fringe. The websites where I was finding articles agreeing with my point of view often were linking back to Scientology sites or other hard-core antipsychiatry groups and staking out ideological positions. I increasingly began to wonder about some of the things I thought were obvious and true. And when I talked to parents of children with mental health issues about my assumptions I encountered real hostility. One friend in particular just looked at me when I told her that I thought kids with nothing wrong with them were being overdiagnosed and that medication didn’t work. She forcefully asked, “How do you know that?” I would later learn that her son, who was ultimately diagnosed with Asperger’s Disorder, had seriously contemplated suicide at age six, had violent outbursts and paranoid episodes by age eight, and had begun holding the family hostage to his destructive rages by his early teens, and that my friend had gone through an ordeal of her own in trying to get him the best possible treatment.  Something wasn’t right. I just couldn’t find answers to prove that I knew what I thought I knew.

The notion of these kids being symptoms of something wrong in society, “canaries in the coal mine,” as it’s often said, worked as an intellectual construct, but it broke down whenever I talked to a parent of a child with mental health issues. Once I listened to parents’ stories, the intellectual construct fell apart.

3. Millions of parents struggle each year with how to help their children suffering from disorders like autism, Asperger’s, attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), bipolar disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and the like.  What sort of challenges do these parents face as they try to make the right decisions about their children’s health?

These parents not only have to struggle with understanding their children’s disorders and finding the right treatments, but they also have to contend with enormous self-doubt and, often, skepticism and even condemnation from people around them who believe they’re exaggerating their children’s problems and pathologizing them. It is very difficult for them to find their way, particularly since it’s so hard to find doctors who can really take the time to explain treatment options to them and so hard to find institutions they can trust for good information.

4. One of the central ideas of this book is that there’s a real dividing line, a gulf of experience and understanding that separates these parents from those whose kids are untouched by these disorders.  What is it that people need to know about this gulf of experience?  And why is it so significant?

It is very difficult to understand what it is to have a child with mental health issues, because when a child has a real disorder it isn’t just a question of having symptoms that everyone has at one time or another. Everyone is sad sometimes; that doesn’t mean everyone is depressed. Everyone is anxious sometimes; that doesn’t mean we all have anxiety disorders. Everyone these days gets distracted, but that doesn’t mean we all have ADHD. Not all kids are suicidal. Not all kids have panic attacks. Not all kids struggle to keep their minds focused for a single math problem. These are not variations on normal child behavior. The differences of degree are real and significant. Not acknowledging the reality of children’s problems, minimizing what are real and often really difficult conditions, denies children the possibility of getting better.

5. A lot of what you’ve written in this book goes against received wisdom.  You’re not a doctor.  What do you say to those who question your standing to make the arguments you’re making?

I’m not a doctor but I interviewed a lot of doctors and I did what I know how to do as a journalist, which is to talk to experts, listen very carefully, read a lot of information, and pull it all together.  One of the reasons the book’s notes section is so long is that I wanted to show that I had done my homework, that I had been careful, that I had been accurate, and that I had read everything I could get my hands on.  There was a certain amount of anecdotal data I collected from parents, but I was determined, above all, to let the facts lead me in whatever direction they would.

6.  Some people feel very strongly there’s an epidemic of “legal drugging” of our kids going on.  They might see this book as formal justification for drug companies, or for physician practices or health plans that promote prescribing medication in a void, without comprehensive care.  What’s your reaction?

I’m not defending drug companies, nor am I saying meds are the answer to every problem.  And I’m certainly not in the position to be issuing medical opinions. What I am trying to do is approach this, and write about it, as a journalist. I’m describing a social phenomenon and how we ought to talk about it.  Needless to say, the issues you’re mentioning here are all nightmare issues for parents who end up in situations where they’re considering putting their kids on meds. When you talk to doctors about it they’ll talk about levels of risk, and the risk of not treating—which carries a risk of its own—compared to the risk of treating. Doctors have an ability to think abstractly and dispassionately about these issues. They can think in terms of whether, for example, the risk of taking ADHD meds is less than the risk of getting in a car crash because you don’t take ADHD meds.

I say throughout the book that children are not getting sufficient comprehensive care. Too often they’re getting meds without proper therapy or follow-up. Parents aren’t getting enough time to sit with doctors to talk about options. It’s all too expensive. And there are not enough specialists. We really need to be thinking in the direction of providing more and better options so that kids can get more comprehensive care. I also go on at length about drug companies and their practices and why they’ve completely lost the public’s trust. But I do think it’s a mistake to conflate entirely the negative activities of the pharmaceutical industry and what’s going on with child psychiatry today. It’s understandable, given how many psychiatrists are in the pay of Big Pharma, but it’s just too simple to say it’s all about drug companies pushing their products.

7. You spent a lot of time talking to as many parents as you could about how their children came to be diagnosed, and how they came to agree to give their kids medications (if medications were called for).  What did you learn?

Time and again I heard the same story. Nobody was rushing to have their kids diagnosed. They all hated giving their children medications. It became more and more important to me to tell that story, to change people’s perceptions, to cut through perceived wisdom and the shrugging-off of those parents and their kids. I also came to understand that while there’s a lot of good that can be done for children and that children can get very good help, most of them don’t get the mental health care they need. And even when they do get mental health care, it’s rarely top-quality care. They get what their parents’ health insurance will provide, or what they can afford, which isn’t much. We’re at a moment in time where there’s the potential to do a lot of good for kids with mental health issues, and instead a lot of bad things are being done.  That’s not going to change unless we start asking some big, important questions. But those questions have to spring from a place of compassion, not judgment and blame.

8. How many kids in this country have mental health issues?

The estimates range from 5 to 20 percent. There’s a wide variation because the numbers depends on the degree of severity.  There’s the 5 percent who have severe mental issues.  Then there’s the 20 percent whose mental health issues affect their abilities in some ways but who are still able to go about life the way other kids do.

When talking about children’s mental health issues, you’ll sometimes hear people dismissively say, “Well, they’ve all got something now.” One thing that was important to me was to try to determine exactly what “all” represented.  Clearly, the biggest number—20 percent—is a sizeable minority, but it’s far from “all.”

9. Why is there so much resistance to the idea that a fair number of children require psychiatric treatment and medication?  We’re willing to believe that something like diabetes has a genetic component—that it shows up in childhood and should be treated as early as possible.  Why don’t we accept that the same could be true of mental health disorders?

I think in part it’s because the idea is so new to us. When we were kids we didn’t know other kids with these problems, or at least we thought we didn’t. We all went to schools with boys who were constantly in the principal’s office, or getting into fights on the playground. We all knew kids who got into drugs in high school or were always getting into trouble. But we didn’t use terms like “depressed.” We didn’t think those kids might have a problem, let alone something like ADHD. They were just “bad.” If you don’t have the vocabulary for a concept, it doesn’t exist.

We’re also sort of primed to believe there’s something wrong with children, with childhood, and with family life today. We live in an insanely competitive and pressured time. A lot of us don’t like the parenting that goes on in our time.  We just assume that the hypercompetitive, overbearing parenting we see so often these days is going to lead to problems in our kids.  These are all naïve assumptions as to why children actually develop mental health disorders..

But they make sense to us – they seem logical. We tend to create and believe in narratives to explain what’s happening when things go wrong with kids. But what if not every problem has a cause that makes sense to us within this kind of narrative framework? What if some kids are just born with brains that work a bit differently? What if what we do as parents isn’t all-determinative? These are upsetting notions, because they undermine our sense of causality and control. Contemporary psychiatry, which is so biologically focused, simply goes against the grain of how we think about ourselves as people.

10. Your book laments the missed opportunities there are these days for putting science to its best possible use in treating children with mental health issues and also looks at ways that the benefits of scientific progress have been squandered – notably in the ways that the pharmaceutical industry and some psychiatrists have betrayed and lost the trust of parents. But you also point to stories of progress. What sort of progress has been made?

There are more medications now to help children than ever before, and forms of therapy that have been proven effective. Kids with mental health issues can get better and are able to participate more broadly in life than ever before. They’re not facing the same stigma they once did, nor are their parents as isolated as they once were. If you place the experience of the mentally ill child at the center rather than on the sidelines of the debate—in other words, if you keep in mind this is about children suffering rather than simply being symbols of the ills of contemporary life—then the developments of the past few decades truly become a story of progress.

11. One of the big questions that so often pops up in discussions about kids with mental health disorders is “Are there really more of them today, or are we merely seeing and counting them differently?” You say supposition is all we really have to go on in trying to find an answer. Why doesn’t good data exist?

If you go back beyond 1980, the nomenclature for various psychiatric disorders was completely different. Before the 1970s it wasn’t believed that children suffered from depression. The same can be said of bipolar disorder before the 1990s. The diagnosis for autism, as it’s formulated now, didn’t exist until 1980 and the publication of DSM-III (the third revision of the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders).  There was also no diagnosis called ADHD prior to that year.  As for Asperger’s, its diagnosis didn’t exist until 1994. There’s simply no way to quantify disorders that didn’t exist and weren’t defined as such in the past.

12.  Why is there such a huge difference between what outside observers assume when thinking about the kids being diagnosed with mental health issues and what the parents of these kids are seeing and living through?

Many outside observers assume that what these kids are going through is normal and trivial, and that with better parenting, or at least more realistic expectations from parents, the problems will just go away. But for the parents of kids with mental health disorders it’s not a question of their kids getting B’s instead of A’s. It’s not about their kid having a temper tantrum like all kids do, or simply behaving badly. And it’s certainly not about their kids failing to live up to their expectations. It’s about kids who threaten suicide, or a girl who spends two hours every night locking and unlocking the front door. It’s about the son who makes a fuss about wearing the same shoes every day because he’s sure that if he doesn’t his mother will die. These are not the normal vicissitudes of childhood. This isn’t “normal stuff.” It’s a different level of experience, a different degree. And that’s what’s often missing in how these issues are discussed and framed.

13.  In the chapter on the use of psychotropic medications in kids you mention the dizzying array of damning numbers that have been making headlines over the past ten years.  Why do you say the numbers don’t really tell much of a story?

Because the story isn’t clear. Some numbers—like the often alleged 600 percent increase in Ritalin use in the 1990s, and the frequently reported “fact” that up to a fifth of white fifth grade boys are on ADHD meds—have turned out, upon examination, to be just plain wrong. Others lend themselves too easily to distorted meanings, unless you put them into context. For example, how meaningful is it to know that in the 1990s antidepressant use tripled if you don’t know that prior to the 1990s—i.e., before the age of Prozac—antidepressants were pretty much never given to kids at all? How huge does that tripling seem if you find out that, at the end of this nothing-to-something transition, there was still only a tiny percentage of kids—one half to 1 percent of all children—taking antidepressant meds?

It’s certainly highly worrisome to know that too many kids in foster care, for example, now get medication—multiple medications—without therapy or proper support for the traumas they’ve endured, but it’s more troubling to think of what happens to those who, like the vast majority of disadvantaged children, get no treatment at all. The story is complicated. What makes this topic difficult is that there are no pat answers. People like to have certitude. That’s why you see all these sweeping statements. But when it comes to these numbers you invariably end up saying, “Yes, but…” The truth is mixed. There are a lot of gray areas. And gray areas are hard to talk about.

14. Why do you consider this a pivotal moment for mental health in America?

We are at the brink of never-before-seen opportunities for scientific progress when it comes to mental health.  For one thing, the past couple of decades have seen a lot of big advances in understanding how the brain works and in determining what treatments are actually effective. There’s a vast body of knowledge to back up many of these treatments, but it doesn’t necessarily get out in a consistent way to parents. There’s still a lot of confusion and quackery out there. So you end up seeing many parents running in circles, trying to figure things out on their own. And because of the way health care is delivered in this country there’s not a lot of opportunity for them to sit down and talk to doctors at length.

It’s a pivotal moment, too, because along with advances have come abuses. The drug makers have acted cynically and gone too far in their direct-to-consumer marketing and advertising efforts, in the promises they make, and in promoting off-label uses for medications that are potentially quite dangerous. Doctors have helped erode the public’s trust by doing unofficial marketing for drug makers. So you have good and bad mixed together.  Not surprisingly, the bad has gotten a lot more attention than the good.

15.  Our impulse is to see children with mental health issues as victims, the “canaries in the coal mine” of our sick, out-of-whack society.  Can society cause the kinds of disorders we’re seeing in kids?

The prevailing view is that children’s mental health issues arise from a subtle interplay of genetics, biology, and environment. The metaphor that’s always used is that genes load the gun and the environment pulls the trigger. If the environment alone was the problem, we’d be seeing epidemic levels of these disorders in kids. Despite all the hyped-up headlines, the numbers just aren’t that huge. Everyone I’ve talked to believes society or parenting does play a role, but you have to have fertile terrain for those outside pathogens to take root and cause problems.

16.  There’s a perception out there, and not a false one, that it’s the kids from the wealthiest homes who get the most diagnoses and the most and best services.  For example, the most competitive schools often show disproportionate numbers of students with learning disabilities. The most affluent school districts across the country register the greatest number of children getting special accommodations in school, including things like extra time when taking their SATs. People end up feeling this is all about wealthy parents “gaming the system” in order to get even greater advantages for their kids.  But you say this situation reflects a much larger and darker reality.  What is it?

The larger and darker reality is that only parents with considerable means (and the time and the savvy that usually accompany such means) are able to work our school systems to get the services and accommodation to which kids with issues are entitled.  Even the basic special education services that public school districts are legally required to provide for children with learning disabilities or other issues are very difficult to access for parents without time and considerable energy and resources.  It’s thus not surprising that households where the parents don’t have the time to advocate for their kids, or the money to take on school systems, are disproportionately given short shrift when it comes to their kids getting the resources they deserve.

17.  You pull no punches in hammering away at the pharmaceutical industry and most particularly the alleged cozy relationship that exists between psychiatrists (and doctors in general) and big pharmaceutical companies.  You also devote significant time to looking at how agencies like the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) and the National Institutes of Health (NIH) have allegedly been co-opted by Big Pharma. How do we change this?

Things have already started changing. In the wake of several recent, highly publicized scandals there has already been a lot of “housecleaning” going on. More stringent regulations have been put in place, particularly at the NIH. Universities are self-policing more, and many of them have taken steps to make their researchers’ relationships with drug companies more transparent. More limits are being placed on allowable levels of collaboration and the kinds of money doctors and researchers can receive. And most prominent medical and academic journals now require authors to list their industry affiliations at the end of their articles.  At some point we may even see legislation for creating a national database that lists doctors’ relationships with Big Pharma. We’re clearly entering a moment of correction, and that’s as it should be.

It’s unrealistic to say doctors shouldn’t work at all with Big Pharma, because that’s how research gets done (and the government certainly doesn’t have the money to foot the bill entirely on its own).  Some collaboration is necessary. But stricter rules are also a necessity, and doctors have to find it within themselves not to work as a shadow arm of the drug industry.  For one thing, they need to own their own research.  One of the major downsides to having the pharmaceutical industry run its own show on the drug trials they’re paying for is that they own the data collected during the trials. They’re the ones who decide when or whether to publish the results.  This has led to a number of instances in which companies have suppressed data showing their drugs are ineffective or pose greater risks than medications already on the market.

18.  What’s your goal in writing this book?

For parents of children with mental health issues, I’d love it if they come away from this book with a feeling of being in community with others.  I want them to feel less misunderstood, alone, and stigmatized. For those who don’t necessarily have children with “issues”—and particularly for those who, like me, were functioning on autopilot, recycling received wisdom about children’s mental health without questioning it—I hope this book will open their eyes.  If the book makes these people see that things are more complicated than they seem, it will have served its purpose.

19.  The debate over health-care reform is very much on people’s minds at the moment. What sort of reform do you think we need when it comes to mental health care for children?

The first thing that needs to be done is to make sure mental health care is included in health insurance packages to begin with—it is in some, but not in all by any means (and legislation passed in recent years guaranteeing parity for mental health care only applies to people who have mental health coverage in the first place).  I think reimbursement rates need to be increased, and we need to reexamine what services are eligible for reimbursement.  (Those child psychiatrists who do participate in health insurance aren’t paid to do therapy, which means they can’t provide the best standard of care recognized by their profession. It means they are essentially boxed in to doing nothing more than medication management, solving each problem with pill after pill.)

And changes are going to have to come from practitioners as well. Child psychologists and psychiatrists need to make themselves available to people who can’t necessarily afford full fees. There are only about seven thousand child psychiatrists currently practicing in this country, and they’re overwhelmingly concentrated in the big cities. That means in some rural areas, there are no child psychiatrists—or even child psychologists—at all. It also means many child psychiatrists have huge waiting lists. As a result, they don’t need to take on patients whose only means of paying is through health insurance. That’s why I’d love to see health care reform that also includes a mechanism for incentivizing med school students to go into specialties where they’re really needed, like child psychiatry.

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Thank you Judith for taking the time to answer many questions and help us to understand the value of your recent book!

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Sue Scheff: Teens with ADHD and Success in College

by Sue Scheff on Apr 19, 2010


As a parent with a son with ADHD, this recent article that ADDitude Magazine released is very interesting.  ADHD students are highly intelligent – they do need motivation and inspiration, however don’t all kids need encouragement?

Source: ADDitude Magazine

Diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD), my daughter struggled to earn good grades in school. In college, her professor inspired her to succeed — now she’s tutoring others.

By: Brenda Nicholson

Every parent thinks her kids are smart. I always felt that way about my three children, even when their grades didn’t reflect it. Their attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD) — all of them have it — had something to do with their poor showing in school.

My daughter Caitlin is a good example. Her sister, Sarah, calls her “the dumbest smart person I know.” Caitlin does very well on standardized tests, yet her classroom work and grades never reflect her potential.

That all changed when she entered college. A very special psychology professor — Dr. Albert Martin — finally brought out Caitlin’s best in the classroom. Dr. Martin believes that his job is to help students learn in any way he can. He is clear on what he wants students to learn, and he hands out study guides to reinforce his expectations. When Caitlin misses a class — which is not often — she knows what was covered, and knows how to make up the work.

Caitlin earned an A in his first class and is on her way to acing his next course. Her self-esteem and confidence have gone up — and the other students recognize it. A few of them asked her to tutor them after class. Imagine: My daughter — “the dumbest smart person” — is tutoring others.

I can’t tell you how proud I am, and I know that she is proud of herself. For the first time, she feels that people are seeing her for who she really is. It is the best feeling in the world — for both of us.

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Sue Scheff: Bullying No More – 9 year old making a difference!

by Sue Scheff on Dec 08, 2009


JaylenArnoldWhen people hear the word inspiration you automatically know you are on a positive road and about to be uplifted!  One of my earlier articles was about Teens that Inspire, and through that I was introduced to a now 9 year old inspirational young boy, Jaylen Arnold.

Jaylen Arnold, a Florida resident,  radiates inspiration and continues to help others as well as educate kids and parents alike about one of our country’s most disturbing growing trends – bullying.

Recently Jaylen took time out of his busy schedule to answer some questions about his crusade and his mission to help millions of children.  Don’t forget to watch his PSA at the end of this article.

Part 1:

1.Why and when did you create www.JaylensChallenge.org ?

My website was created in May of this year. I created it because I wanted to find a way to help kids that were still getting bullied.

2. Tell us a bit about Tourette’s Syndrome? When were you diagnosed with Tourette’s?

I was diagnosed with TS at 3 years old. Tourette Syndrome is this little thingy in your brain that makes your body do tics(move and make noises) when you don’t want it to. You can control your body, my body controls me.

3. Many parents are exhausted of hearing labels; however you are a shining example of perseverance. You reference yourself as an “alphabet” kid – explain that to us?

Well, that’s because I have Tourette Syndrome, Asperger’s, and Obsessive Compulsive. When you have a disability, the doctor’s always write it by your name and they abbreviate it to make it easier. So I have TS (Tourette), ASP (Asperger’s), and OCD (obsessive compulsive) which is a lot of letters of the alphabet!

4.You are determined to be a voice to fight bullying (which I may say you are definitely a voice to be heard). Explain to us how bullying has effected you and how you are helping others learn how to prevent bullying.

When I was copied and laughed at for my tics, it made my Tourette’s much worse because it stressed me and then my Asperger’s was getting all overworked because Aspergers is part of Autism and I was a real mess. My mom took me out of school for a little while and then put me back to my old school where I wasn’t made fun of. I’m teaching kids about bullying because when I went back to the school that made fun of me later and told them about my problems, the kids listened and they said they were sorry. So I just thought and talked to my mom and said “this is easy, someone just needs to tell all these bad kids”. I had seen kids get physically bullied at that school when I went there.

5. You mentioned that public school was difficult for you. Do you feel that we need more education and awareness about bullying in public schools and how to you think we can do this?

ABSOLUTELY!!! Just call my mom or email us through my website. We will COME to your school and teach your kids about bullying and why you shouldn’t do it! Or if mom won’t let me come that far, they will send you all the stuff and we tell you how to do it with the whole school.
 

Jaylen_LogoClick here for part 2.

Click here to watch video of Jaylen’s PSA.

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Sue Scheff: Single Parents: How to Raise ADHD Children – Alone

by Sue Scheff on Oct 09, 2009


As a single parent, I had this challenge and wish there was this much information and resources 20 years ago.  ADHD children can test your patience, however as a parent, we want to do what is best for our kids.  Like myself, we will try all sorts of ideas and advice before taking the medication road.  For us, medication saved my child’s academic and social life.  What is best for you?

friend-or-parent-300x197Source: ADDitude Magazine

Seven expert strategies to help single parents raise confident, successful children with ADHD.

by John Taylor, Ph.D.

You’re sitting in the principal’s office, waiting to talk about your child’s misbehavior. You consider how much easier this would be — not to mention running the household — if your spouse were still in the picture. Raising a child with ADHD can challenge parents in a strong marriage. Doing it alone seems impossible.

It doesn’t have to be. I’ve worked with many single parents who have done it without losing their sanity or their sense of humor. What’s more, their children have thrived, developing a full complement of social skills and flourishing at school and in their careers. All successful single parents have a plan — strategies for taking some of the parenting pressure off their shoulders and nipping little problems in the bud. Here are my best suggestions for going it alone.

1. Make and stick to routines.

When you find your car keys in the cutlery drawer and Chinese food containers in the cabinet, it’s time to make hard-and-fast routines for your home. Set up chore charts, with firm times for accomplishing each task.

Consider listing chores on separate charts, so that children can choose a task from each chart each day. No one wants to be consistently stuck with the most unsavory one — like cleaning the downstairs toilet.

2. Schedule “together time.”

Being the breadwinner and raising a child can drain your energy, leaving you exhausted and irritable. Too many skirmishes, however small, can erode a child’s perception of feeling loved. Every week, press the “love-reset” button by spending some recreational time with each of your children.

The shared time should be child-oriented and involve high-quality interaction between the two of you. Reading together, playing a board game or cards, watching a DVD or video, riding bicycles, or making a favorite meal will do nicely. Sibling rivalry, often a concern in families with ADHD, will decrease considerably if you schedule regular together time.

3. Outsource activities.

Music or art lessons, martial-arts classes, or after-school sports enrich the lives of children with ADHD. Such activities develop their abilities and social skills. Getting your children to lessons and appointments, however, may seem like more than you can manage. Don’t ditch the activities; get help.

Arrange for your children to share rides with other kids in the same program. Call relatives or friends to see if they can occasionally run your child to his guitar lesson or gymnastics hour.

4. Streamline mealtime.

Kids with ADHD benefit from helping out with menu planning, meal preparation, and setting and clearing the table. To shorten your list of chores, make children responsible for preparing part of one meal each week, whether it’s dessert or a salad. While you’re at it, prepare double portions of the main course, and refrigerate or freeze them for next week. Get into the habit of clearing and washing dishes immediately after each meal or snack. No TV or computer time until the “clean team” places the dishes in the dishwasher and the condiments back in the fridge.

5. Put a sock in it.

Many single parents act like super-cops, because there is no one else around to remind their child about homework, taking a shower, whatever. The problem is, nagging creates tension in the household. Be alert for opportunities to let your child take the lead. Ask him to tape-record reminders for himself, so you don’t have to do all the reminding. A laid-back approach brings peace and harmony into the family, and empowers an absentminded child to take control of his day.

6. Agree on treatment.

When your child visits your ex-spouse, his treatment program may be interrupted or called into question. Arrange a joint session with your child’s counselor, therapist, or physician to educate the other parent about why treatment is needed. If the non-custodial parent decides to take the child off medication, and symptoms flare up, use that potentially unpleasant experience as leverage to require your spouse to maintain the treatment plan during the next visit.

7. Agree on responsibilities.

If your child can’t wait to get to Dad’s house every other weekend, Dad might be spoiling him with unadulterated fun. ADHD children often yo-yo between the excessively permissive parent and the taskmaster. The contrast between fun-and-games visits and daily routines at home can create problems for you. Ask your ex-spouse to assign the child some tasks when visiting with him, even if you have to sit down and map them out. Also, make sure that life at home isn’t all work and no play (see “Schedule ‘together time’”). Single parenting is challenging, but it can be fun as well.

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Sue Scheff: Teen ADHD and Social Skills

by Sue Scheff on Aug 11, 2009


School is opening, and with that comes your teen finding their peer group and developing healthy relationships.  With ADHD students, this sometimes can be more challenging.  As a mother of an ADHD child (now a young adult), I remember these times well. 

ADDitude Magazine is a great resource for articles, tips and information on ADD/ADHD in both kids and adults.  Here is a recent article I felt is perfect timing to share with my readers.

Source: ADDitude Magazine

ADHDsocialskillsHow to Jump-Start Friendships for your ADHD Teen

Five creative ways to help your teenager with ADHD (and poor social skills) find — and keep — friends.

by Carol Brady, Ph.D.

Cultivating friendships during the teen years can be an awesome task for the youngster with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Cliques are hard to break into, and delayed maturity  is a roadblock to social success.

While some hyperactive, impulsive ADHD teens win friends with their enthusiasm and offbeat humor, others find themselves ostracized, seen by their peers as overbearing or immature. And for primarily inattentive ADHD kids, chitchat may be a challenge, paralyzing them into silence.

You can’t structure your child’s social life, as you did through elementary and middle school, but you can give the little push that can get her started. “Jump starts” that some of my clients’ parents have used include:

School Clubs

High schools are often much larger than elementary and middle schools, and the school-wide social scene can be daunting to navigate for inattentive ADDers. Conversation — and friendship — come more easily among teens who have a shared interest.

Encourage your child to sign up for clubs or activities that will put her in touch with like-minded students. An outing with the French club may spark conversation with a student in a different class.

Youth Groups

ADHD teens, like ADHD children, often need planned activities. Although you no longer plan and supervise play dates, church organizations, scout groups, and other after-school or community activities can provide structure for the teen who cannot find a crowd on her own.

An added bonus: The adults who run such groups are generally committed to involving all the kids. They’ll take the time to talk to a teen standing on the edge of the group and encourage her to join in.

Outings with Parents

Some ADHD teens do best in smaller groups, with some parental monitoring. Although parents are generally “uncool” to high-schoolers, your presence is acceptable in certain situations. A teen who’s reluctant to call a friend to “hang out” might be persuaded to invite a friend or two to a sporting event, if Dad gets a few tickets.

Community-service programs often involve parents along with their children. The National Charity League sends mother-daughter pairs to volunteer in food kitchens or homeless shelters. I’ve seen many girls make real connections with peers in this kind of setting.

Part-Time Jobs

An after-school or weekend job can let a teen practice some social skills and gain self-confidence. I worked with one youngster who thought he was doomed to social isolation — until he landed a job at a local smoothie shop. He began by talking with classmates who came into the shop, then got to know many of them outside of work, as well.

Social-Skills Groups

If a teen is seriously struggling on the social front, his “jump start” might be a formal group designed to teach social skills. Such groups are generally led by a psychologist or therapist, and may be sponsored by schools or community centers.

The format may involve structured tasks or be an open forum for conversation, with feedback coming from both group leaders, and peers. I’ve seen social-skills groups work wonders for teens who turned a deaf ear when Mom or Dad pointed out social blunders.

 

 

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Sue Scheff: 10 Easy Ways to Start the School Year Right

by Sue Scheff on Jul 25, 2009


It is almost hard to believe that August is around the corner and school will be opening in different parts of our country.  Where did the summer go?  The holidays are only months away!  O-kay, let’s not stress about that right now.  Selfishly, I am grateful the school years are behind me, although the memories will be there forever.  The clothes (uniforms), books, supplies, teachers, open houses, PTO/PTA, and so much more to help your kids have a positive school year.

If you have an ADD/ADHD child you have a bit extra to be concerned about.  As a mother of an ADHD child, I remember always being sure he had a teacher that was familiar with ADD/ADHD and worrying about things I probably didn’t have to worry about.  ADDitude Magazine has created a great starters list for us – read on!

teacherstudentSource: ADDitude Magazine

Follow these 10 steps to a happier, more organized, more productive school year for your child with attention deficit disorder (ADHD).

by Annie Sofield Reed

Step One

Talk with your child, and accentuate the positive.

If your child has attention deficit disorder (ADD ADHD), she may have low self-esteem. To succeed in school, she must not only adhere to academic and behavioral standards, she must believe in herself.

Educate your child about her condition and present the upside of it. For example, ADHD often correlates with traits such as creativity. As she meets new people and faces new challenges at school, help her remember that she is a valuable member of her classroom community — in spite of, or because of, her differences.

Step Two

Ask your child about his friends.

He may need your help in identifying classmates with whom he could develop constructive friendships. During the first weeks of school, ask your child to describe his classmates, and listen for clues about personalities that might complement his own.

Children with ADHD tend to form quick alliances with children they find exciting or interesting. Encourage your child to get to know the quieter, studious kids, who may admire his imagination or boldness and who may be a calming influence.

Step Three

Help your ADHD child learn to appreciate the teacher.

Your child may feel that teachers are the enemy. Help her find something to appreciate about her teacher. My son and I developed a theory about his fifth-grade teacher; we credited her ability to be understanding to her experience as a parent. My son has appreciated other teachers for their taste in music or movies.

Children with attention deficit should have a sense of teachers as teammates, not merely as authorities. When your child thinks, “She’s strict, but she’s cool,” what she means is, “We can work together.”

Step Four

Meet with the teacher.

Have a conversation with your child’s teacher during the first week of school. Without coming off as pushy, clarify the specifics of your child’s attention deficit disorder. Make sure she knows about your child’s IEP or 504 Plan, if there is one in place. Any accommodations should begin immediately, and the classroom teacher can make sure that happens.

Step Five

Have a second conversation with the teacher.

About a month into the school year, ask for a second meeting (if the teacher hasn’t called for one sooner). Don’t wait until parent-teacher conferences to get her take on how things are going. The earlier you are aware of the teacher’s perspective, the sooner you and your child can avoid scenarios that interfere with learning.

Keep communication open. Many teachers prefer e-mail as a way to share information.

Step Six

Talk with your child’s doctor.

If your child is taking ADHD medication, or if you are considering a trial of ADD medicine, have a conversation with the prescribing doctor in late summer and make a plan for the beginning of school.

If this is the first time your child will be taking medication, you may want to start soon after this appointment, so you’ll be able to fine-tune the dose before classes begin.

If your child has taken medication before, he can resume shortly before school starts.

Step Seven

Have a second conversation with the doctor.

After a few weeks of school, you should have another conversation with your child’s psychiatrist or prescribing doctor. In this conversation, perhaps held over the phone, you and the doctor review the information you get from your child, his teacher, and your own observations to decide whether the current course of medication is right.

Step Eight

Talk with other parents.

The new school year brings new chances to talk with other parents at drop-off and pick-up, playdates, back-to-school night, and other events.

How much should you say about your child’s ADHD diagnosis? This is a personal choice, which you might base on your own ease in discussing such matters, your child’s wishes, and your own sense of how the information might be received.

Based on personal experience, I advocate disclosure without shame. I find that other parents are generally supportive. If you share your struggles, you are inviting other parents to share with you — and to lean on you, as well.

If your child knows that you believe in speaking openly, he is less likely to feel that he is bearing a shameful secret.

Step Nine

Talk with your family.

Have conversations with everyone in your family. Such talks can, of course, occur at any point, but the start of the school year is a good time to review certain understandings.

ADHD affects your family dynamics. Your child may not be the only person in the family who has ADD. Share your experiences with each other. Have your child describe to his relatives what ADD feels like. Ask him to tell everyone what kind of support is helpful. Have family members talk about what their challenges are and what support they need.

If everyone puts their heads together, positive things can develop and the year will go more smoothly.

Step Ten

Revisit past successes — ask yourself tough questions.

Review what you’ve learned about your ADHD child in the last year. What helped him toward success in the previous grade? What made success difficult? As your child grows, your knowledge of him grows. Maybe an old idea needs revision.

Keep a current, holistic, and detailed impression of your child in mind as you move forward. Know that you may face some new challenges this year, but empower yourself as the expert on your child and trust that you’ll make the right decisions throughout the coming year.

 

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Sue Scheff: Horse Sense for Children with ADHD/Autism

by Sue Scheff on Jul 24, 2009


Are you ready to be blown away?  Drop Your Reins is a program that offers peaceful solutions for ADHD/ADD & Autistic Children Using Natural Horsemanship.  The founder is Danielle Herb, and the part that will blow you away is – she is only 15 years old!  So how does she did she accomplish so much in so little time?  It is my guess that determination and passion is what is driving her! 

I have spoken with her mother, Marianne St. Claire, and was so impressed at all of Danielle’s accomplishments.  She is a leader for youths – and for the kids she helps.  I look forward to meeting with all of them soon!  How fortunate I am to be in the same state they are?  Very – and I can’t wait!  I grew up riding and showing horses, so this feels like it was all meant to be. 

In the meantime – I wanted to share some of her fantastic information about the Drop Your Reins program and her terrific new website! www.dropyourreins.com – Be sure to check it out!

Read on….

focusteachingDrop Your Reins and Learn To Trust!

The Method
Mother and daughter team Marianne St. Clair and Danielle Herb are two dynamic, pioneering and incredible human beings who use their own journey of discovery through the challenges of ADHD to help other families find alternative healing methods.

By partnering with horses, they have created an experiential learning environment that invites open communication, personal reflection, and progressive alternatives for ADD/ADHD and Autistic diagnosed children as well as for those who support them.

The Madness

The old model of parenting and training horses, still being used by many today, is to break their spirit into submission to get them to do what you want. They are repeatedly worn down until the end result is unhappy, unhealthy kids and horses. 

 The (Danielle Herb) Experience

 

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Founded and run by 15-year-old Danielle Herb, Drop Your Reins is a collaborative experiential training school based in Live Oak, FL. The flagship program offered by Drop Your Reins is called ‘The Experience’, which is a dynamic and progressive program that breaks down the social segmentation that exists among humans, animals and science. The holistic and progressive program infuses direct interaction with horses, supplemental training videos, experiential coaching techniques and community collaboration to  help guide the powerful minds of ADD/ADHD and Autistic children to reach their greatest potential while maintaining their innocence and purity.  

The Same, Yet Different

Whether your art is in your pen, your keyboard or your heart the only way to nurture and foster your innate creative being is to embrace and explore it. Adults often get immersed in their ‘daily routine’ and they lose sight of this ’special creative place’ that they once thrived and roamed wild and free in as a child.  However, they often seek out this place as they continue to age and mature. Adults have choices, outlets and tools that they can use to rediscover this place and align themselves with others that celebrate their differences.

For children diagnosed with ADD/ADHD and Autism their journey is much the same, however, it exists on the opposite end of the spectrum. They are constantly immersed in their ‘creative being’ so they are in search of a serene place to escape where they can find peacefulness and tranquility. Yet, the more they seek out this place, the more the world labels them and puts them under a spotlight.  Children have no choices, few outlets and lack the tools or self-sufficiency to empower themselves on this journey. While they have differences, few people identify with them and those differences are certainly not celebrated. 

 How DYR Supports Children:

Drop Your Reins is a Youth to Youth Program designed to give kids (ages 8-14) tools that will assist them in ways to overcome fears and challenges, develop healthy loving relationships, build trust, grow their inner confidence and self esteem and explore leadership. Custom programs are available for youth under age 8 and youth/young adults over the age of 14.

How DYR Supports Parents:

After Danielle was diagnosed with ADD/ADHD at age 5 it was Marianne’s intuition that led her in the quest to assist her daughter to rid herself of the harmful mental, emotional and physical side affects associated with ADHD. Their holistic approach takes into consideration foods, additives, toxins, stressors, schooling, home life, and much more to work with parents to find healing solutions for each child and family that are touched by their program.

How DYR Supports Medical and Health Practioners:

New research suggests that animals have far more complex and cognitive social skils than we give them credit for. By collaborating with Drop Your Reins Medical and Equine Practioners alike can work closely to study these amazing creatures in a natural setting and document their relationships and interaction as it pertains to humans.

How DYR Supports the Equine Community: 
 
Danielle and an 'Attentive' Horse :) Danielle and an ‘Attentive’ Horse

As Drop Your Reins prepares to launch its 2010 International Tour the Equine Community plays an integral role. From serving as host sites for Drop Your Reins clinics and demos to enrolling as Drop Your Reins Certified Partners, Drop Your Reins could not exist without their valued support and encouragement.  Supporting all the young people around the world who are impacted by The Drop Your Reins next generation program is greater than Danielle Herb and Marianne St. Clair. They are grateful and open to support from anyone who believes in their mission and compliments their vision.

How DYR Supports the Community at Large:

Regardless if you are an avid lover of horses or just curious about them, Drop Your Reins® co-founders, Danielle Herb and Marianne St. Clair are available as  consultants, speakers or master trainers for your equine related adventure.

Training, Partnerships and More:

Drop Your Reins partners with organizations in a variety of ways from speaking to developing custom training programs, leadership clinics and ’mini experiences’. Following is a list of the types of groups that we currently collaborate and work with:

  • School
  • Faith Based Group
  • Mom’s Group
  • WAHM Group
  • Business
  • 4 H Club
  • Rotary Club
  • FFA
  • Youth Group
  • CHADD Group

Connect

Contact us if you would like to set up a private-discreet program or to learn more about our customized learning/training programs.

p: 386-466-6466

e: dropyourreins[at]gmail [dot] com

Twitter @danielleherb

Twitter: @mariannestclair

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Sue Scheff: “Boy Interrupted” Documentary About Bipolar and Teens Today

by Sue Scheff on Jul 16, 2009


Is Bipolar the new ADHD?  I don’t have the answer for it – however I believe there are many that go undiagnosed just as ADD/ADHD did years ago, and the kids are suffering, failing, raging, and more.  Boy Interrupted seems like it is going to be a wake up call for parents that suspect their child may have some issues, as well as an inspirational film that took guts and courage to document.  I applaud these parents, Dana and Hart Perry, for sharing their story in an effort to bring more awareness to this more and more common disease, Bipolar.  My sympathy for the loss of their son, Evan and gratitude for their unselfishness.  I will be previewing this film this weekend and can’t wait to share it with you.

BI 1 (2)BOY INTERRUPTED Tells the story of a teenager who lost his battle with Bipolar Disease. This heartbreaking documentary debuts on Monday, August 3rd on HBO

On the night of Oct. 2, 2005, 15-year-old Evan Scott Perry ended a lifelong struggle with bipolar disorder by jumping from his New York City bedroom window, leaving behind heartbroken parents, beloved brothers and many friends.  Director Dana Perry, along with her husband Hart Perry, tells the story of their son’s life and death in the heartbreaking documentary BOY INTERRUPTED.

Dana and Hart Perry share the intensely personal story of every parent’s worst nightmare:  the death of a child by suicide.  As professional filmmakers, they were accustomed to making extensive personal films and videos of the family, but never suspected that their footage of son Evan – taken from the moment of his birth throughout childhood and adolescence – would end up becoming the primary source material for this moving account.  Casual and innocuous before his death, the home movies provide a visual record of Evan’s life, and help create an intimate portrait of this vibrant, troubled young man, supplemented by interviews with family, friends, doctors and teachers.

Evan Perry’s life was marked by intense mood swings that alarmed both his parents, who were determined not to allow him to follow in the footsteps of his uncle Scott, who had committed suicide in 1971.  Despite his family’s vigilance, along with a new school, new friends and numerous therapy sessions and medication, Evan’s obsession with ending his life proved overwhelming.  His 2005 suicide sent his reeling parents looking for answers from experts, friends and family members, as well as from the reams of video they’d taken of Evan through the years.  BOY INTERRUPTED is a touching documentary showing that even the best defenses – love, vigilance and treatment – cannot always protect those most vulnerable from themselves.

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Sue Scheff: To Medicate or not to Medicate

by Sue Scheff on Jul 15, 2009


Here is an interesting article that many parents with kids that are diagnosed with ADD/ADHD struggle with.  As a mother of an ADHD child (now a young adult), after trying other alternatives, medication was the path that worked for us.  By the time my son was in his Freshman year of College, he no longer was taking the medication.  I know each child is different and I also know the feeling of wanting to help our kids when they are struggling.  I think one of the largest misconceptions I get from parents today is that ADD/ADHD kids are less intelligent than a child without ADD/ADHD.  My son has a very high IQ – however he couldn’t focus long enough to use it – until we decided on medication.  Did I mention he had a full academic ride in a private college?  Yes, ADD/ADHD children are very intelligent. (O-kay, so I am a proud mom!)

pharmTo Medicate or to not Medicate

When dealing with a child with ADHD or ADD, it seems like the only sane choice for you as a parent is to put them on the various medications that have been emerging.  While these do take care of the initial symptoms, they also serve to build a dependence on medication and alter the complete mood of your child so that you are unaware where their personality went sometimes.  With the increase in medicinal findings relating to such disorders, more and more parents are opting to put their children on various medications that are meant to relieve symptoms but can produce unwanted side effects. 

Dealing with a teenager is rough enough as it is, but dealing with one with ADHD or any other behavioral disorder amplifies this time by 10.  Additionally, the number of cases has increased drastically over the years, which reveals not only an influx of cases but an increase in medication as well.  This in turn has led many to believe that this is not a “true” disorder and is an easy “cop-out” for parents with unruly children to find some way to calm them down.  Furthermore, more and more college students are also claiming to have related disorders in order to get the medication and special help throughout classes.  Ritalin and Adderall are in high demand throughout college campuses and serve to allow students to focus on their papers and assignments better.  Encouraging this type of dependence from such a young age is detrimental for the health of these children and can serve to become a debilitating addiction.  What happens when the children are adults and go off medication?  Will they be able to focus on their life after this point or will they continually need to self-medicate?

Deciding whether or not to put your child on similar medications is a hard decision for any parent, but the recent findings relating disparaging remarks about medication are not entirely helpful for parents considering the option.  For many of these parents, medication seems to be the last viable option, while many health care professionals believe that these behavioral disorders are becoming overdiagnosed around the country.  While most children are prescribed medication in order to make them “normal”, many doctors have argued that no one has talked about the moral equivalent of medication: better parenting and more appropriate schooling.  While it is unfair to blame the parents for this type of behavior condition, it remains apparent that the diagnosis is becoming increasingly popular among health care professionals and schools have yet to really revitalize their efforts to deal with students who suffer from this inability to focus on their work.  Only a decade ago, few children were diagnosed with such a disorder; many were just assumed to not care about school.  However, present day schooling has indicated that teachers need to recognize this type of behavior as a condition that can be treated with medication, not with increased supervision.  In severe cases, medication may be the best option, but overall in the thousands of cases around the country, simply increased discipline on the child should serve to help their overall concentration.  Behavioral conditions should not blossom in this way overnight out of little substance. 

This post was contributed by Sarah Russel, who writes about the top rated colleges. She welcomes your feedback at SarahRussel1234 at gmail.com

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Sue Scheff: Summer Survival Tips for Families Managing ADHD

by Sue Scheff on Jul 06, 2009


It is already in the first week of July, how are you doing with your kids?  Having just returned from a great trip with my kids (young adults) and grandchildren, I am exhausted – and it is only July!  I have several more trips planned, and it seems I need a vacation on the return of all of them.  My son, who is ADHD, is now a young adult and no longer has any symptoms of ADHD – although I think he passed them on to me!  Do kids grow out of ADD/ADHD?  I don’t have the answer to it, but I do think some do.  You will hear conflicting information from different sources, but again, as I have always said – it is all unique to your own individual family etc.

I read this article from Power Moms Unite in early spring and I think since we are almost mid-summer, it is a great tips reminder for those families that have ADHD children.

balancing-act-207x300Striking a Balance: Summer Survival Tips for Families Managing ADHD

One major issue with ADHD and summer vacations is the bored factor. Once the novelty of having all that free-time-to-do-anything wears away, what to do with all that free time becomes a problem.  On the other hand, over-scheduling and over-planning the summer can lead to burn-out and irritability for both parents and children.  The art of managing ADHD during the summer is really about the art of finding balance.  Several strategies can help strike this balance.

Keep a calendar: Use a monthly or weekly calendar and write down vacation, camp and community trip dates.  Kids need routine to feel secure, but be sure to leave some dates empty to allow for free time to simple create and imagine in the back yard.

Prescript your day: Early in the day, sit with your child and review what they want to accomplish and what you need to accomplish.  Negotiate how each of you will spend your time so as not to conflict.  Explicitly state how you expect your child to behave for any important activities (like that very important conference call at 1PM) and be sure to reward them for following the “script.”

Make a summer contract: Use the summer as an opportunity to help your child explore their interests, reinforce their academic skills, and find their passions.  Write out a contract with your child, in which they list their goals for the summer.  Goals could include places they would like to visit, books they would like to read, cub scout activities they would like to complete, models they would like to build- the list of possibilities is endless.  Include goals you and the teacher identify as well.  If you have a therapist, consult them regarding activities to persue over the summer break.  Activities can be focused on building a friendship with a particular friend, trying new foods with dinner, volunteering at a local soup kitchen, or learning the steps to complimenting a sibling. Set a due date and reward for completing each goal.  Consider rewarding the child with a bonus for completing all their goals for the summer.

Loosen up but keep a routine: Part of the brillance of summer is the long days and lazy nights without a tight schedule to keep.  The occasional later bedtime and relaxation of the rules are part of the inherent beauty of summer vacation.  That being said, basic family rules, chores, and routines still need to be followed.  Be mindful that a little sleep deprivation can lead to meltdowns for both parent and child any time of year.  Rules about not playing on the computer all day, still need to be followed, even during the summer.  Too much screen time robs kids of opportunities to build social skills and develop interests as well as leads to irritability.

Manage medicine:  Some parents take a medication vacation over the summer, in an effort to allow their children to gain some weight and height.  There is little evidence however, that ADHD medications permanently impact a child’s height.  Kids often grow slower than their non-medicated peers, but do eventually catch-up.
Before taking a medication vacation, consider all the aspects of your child’s summer.  Will you be taking a long trip, during which time your child will need to sit still? How will you all survive the trip?  Will your child be in camp, where she will need to follow directions?  Will ADHD behavior make it hard for her to participate in group activities or attend to social cues from new friends?  Will your child have lots of unscheduled time with neighborhood kids, in which impulsive behavior could result in unsafe decisions or poor peer interactions? Before taking a medication vacation, consider all these potential situations.

ADHD is a chronic lifelong condition that needs to managed- will your child’s self-esteem, self-image, and social skill acquisition benefit from a medication vacation?  Consider your goals for your child’s summer and how a medication vacation could affect your child’s success in their summer activities.

In lieu of a complete ADHD medication vacation, consider the use of shorter acting medications for the most challenging activities of your child’s summer- like a long car ride or plane trip.  Shorter acting medications can cause fewer appetite- suppressing effects.  Speak with your child’s physician, and collaborate with your child, as you make these decisions.  Remember that as you are modeling healthy management of a condition that will likely be a lifelong journey for your child.  Fuel their passions, provide opportunities to build skills, and model a healthy approach to symptom management.

Relax: Use the summer to reconnect and play.  Just as your kids schedule time to do homework during the school year, schedule regular time to play with your kids every day after work.  Play catch, go for a swim, bike down to the ice cream shop- do activities together to build your relationship and create a healthy self- image. Enjoy your summer together!

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